RVSP dating site

[nicnacs_4u]

I was wondering if anyone has tried this site and been a date??

[nicnacs_4u]

dunno what I missed but can someone elaborate??

[katydidthat]

Nothing worth reading, Nic.

Tomorrow (it's a bit late for me now), I might tell you about my date with the millionaire 🙂

[cq_tech]

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@nicnacs_4u wrote:

"update"to whose interested....

no hear, no happy birthday wish,so beginning to get that feeling...... bit the bullet so to speak and texted him...seems my "illness" has him thinking that I perhaps don`t fit in with his hmmn camping,riding in his truck??,o/seas holidays and walking, the latter is a problem I admit...so it looks like merryground starts again when my bruised ego and rejection has cleared!!lol

take 2.....

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Nics, I really am very sorry to hear that things didn't quite go as planned, but to be perfectly honest, I believe you're far better off without somebody like that in your life anyway. To not even have the common courtesy or decency to tell you to your face that he didn't think you'd fit in with his "lifestyle" was a particularly disgusting and cowardly act, and should have given you a pretty good insight into the sort of person that he really is.

Much better to have found out now than later, after you may have developed feelings for him. Also, please try not to allow this one isolated instance to damage your ego or make you feel rejected. Sure, you may not have been particularly compatible with him, but that certainly doesn't mean you won't be compatible with the next fellow who you meet. And in spite of that person's obvious selfishness and ignorance, I hope you had a really wonderful birthday regardless. 🙂

[tcmsecretuseid]

Nics, I have to tell you that I think it was very brave for you to venture out on a date. As I said earlier, the experience would be positive, negative, or neutral. Maybe it was a little bit of all three. 

In a way, there was some positive sides to the date. He represents the reason why you haven't gone out on a date(some creeps out there). Who needs that kind of attitude? You have learned that there are some differences in your lifestyle that might not work out with others. It has nothing to do with rejection. That guy gets points for being honest. 

The whole point of trying this, is to find someone who might be compatible with your lifestyle. You shouldn't feel rejected, simply because the guy is looking for something that you can't ever be. Was he really the guy you were lookin for? Nope. 

That is how dating works. 

There was a poster on CS who used to write about her dud dates. She turned the whole thing into something very funny. She would post the text messages, and other stories about the dates. It made it fun for her. I won't disclose her name, as I've noticed that she isn't posting about dating anymore. 

A German poster met her husband on these boards. They are happily married, and living in Oz. 

A few American posters met their spouses on the boards too. 

It can happen. 

You just never know where you might meet somebody who is a good fit for what you are looking for. Remember, you are looking for somebody who will bring positive experiences to your life. Anything less than that is useless. 

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Dust yourself off, and try again. 

cq, as usual, your thoughts are eloquently written. 

[lind9650]

Dear nics, first of all  --- Happy belated Birthday wishes!

As the others said, take the first date as an experience and be proud of yourself to have ventured out to meet a stranger on your own.

Remember Jenny from Warragul, whom we brought to the first meet? She has met her partner on the eBay boards, and despite her size and health probems he loves her and they are happy together.

One of my granddaughters has met her husband on a chat forum. She was 18y then, he was 32 and my daughter had the horrors when he travelled all the way from Melbourne to Perth to meet my granddaughter and her family. I had to help my granddaughter to convince her parents that age had nothing to do with compatability and if they object to strongly they may loose their daughter. The couple married two years later and today, ten years later, they have three lovely children, own their own house and farm and travel a lot to see GDs family in Queensland.

Strange things happen when people meet for the first time. It's all part of an adventure and a continuous way of learning. Just enjoy the outing and let fate decide the next step.

Erica ♥

[polksaladallie]

[nicnacs_4u]

UPDATE

Have been "chatting" to someone else and he suggested meeting over a coffee 4.30 yesterday afternoon..hmmn most cafe`s in my area are closed at that time & I texted him I wasn`t going to Macca`s!!lol rang around and found one that closed around 5.30..so we met...seems okay but reminded me of my dad..very knowlegable..been divorced for 15 years and me been me said how come you haven`t "found" anyone in that time..don`t know if that went down well..lol he has 4 daughters all have children and none married so maybe it`s a family thing...iykwim..was okay but no "sparks" for moi..but he did walk me to my car and scratch off a thingo on my windscreen which I really thought was a large chip...so no windscreen repair

chatting with someone else too so will keep you all posted...

[freddie*rooster]

Well done Nic's ♥

[purple_haize]

Good luck Nic, hope you find *Mr Right*!

[bright.ton42]

I think the key with online dating is to 'keep at it'.  Not to put you off but an acquaintance of mine dated 63 people (yep!!!)before she found

the love of her life -     they  hit it off right away and for their honeymoon he took her on a world cruise and now they have kids. 

Yet another woman the second man she met and he was in the USA -  they started talking on the phone and for hours, and within 2 weeks he came out here and they got to know each other better and within 3 months were married. He set up a medical practice and 6 years later they have 3 kids and are happy.  .   I know of other success stories too so it does happen.

I dunno about the 63 dates though , don't know if I'd have the resilience, lol,  and I think that woman was specifically looking for a rich

man so she overlooked a lot of nice people, but whatever floats your boat I guess.

Best of luck Nic , he is out there but you just have to find each other.