I totally understand the talking loudly. I grew up with a deaf step father (result of a car accident) and everything was loud, including the TV. I could hear mum talking to him and also the TV blaring when we were playing in the yard or on the street. We lived in a house, at the end of the street and our floorboards were level with the top of the neighbours roof. Therefore, they would have been able to hear everything going on in the house, especially in Summer when all the windows were open.
Thankfully, all the people that went through that house never complained (it was owner occupied when we moved into our place which was rented, then they sold it and it became a rental). Maybe things were different back in the 70's.
I've been in my current house for 17 years. It's ours, not a rental. The neighbours on the north side, who have been there 3 years (they own it....or the bank does) have complained to us several times about my husband going to work at 4.30am and also me getting called out to work in the middle of the night (and getting home a few hours later). I work shift work and am conscious of noise when I get home from work late and also if I get called back out. Before I even pull into my driveway, I turn my headlights off. My driveway is slightly sloping and as soon as I get to the top, I turn the engine off and roll down to where I park. There is a street light across the road, so I am able to see OK.
If I get called back out, there's not much I can do about having to start the car. I don't turn my lights on until I'm out of the driveway. Their bedroom is next to our driveway, so we both take extra care at the times we have to start the cars. My husband does the same. He starts the car, no lights on and is out the driveway in less than 20 seconds. He then sits on the side of the road and waits for the frost to melt off the windscreen if it's winter.
Why I consider their complaints unjustified. They have a dog. A very bored dog. I dog that barks incessantly. It barks at birds in the tree. It barks at leaves falling off the tree. It barks at the fallen leaves blowing across the grass. It barks at clouds (serious!). it barks when anyone walks past. It barks at cats. It barks at trucks. Hates trucks with a passion.....garbage day is a real hoot! It barks for the sake of barking. They NEVER EVER tell it to stop. Never. It can bark its head off half the night, keeping us awake, and they have the hide to complain about us going to work before the sun comes up? Or me getting home late from work?
Now the last few months, their previously delightful almost 3yo has learned how to squeal. All he does is squeal. A really high pitched squeal. They laugh at him when he does it, which of course, encourages him even more. Thankfully he sleeps of a night!
We now have an agreement. They shut up about my comings and goings in the middle of the night and I won't report their dog to council. I heard on the grapevine that they are talking about selling soon. The new people that move in will be told from the get go. I work shift work. I sometimes work well past my knock off time of 11pm. Sometimes I get called out in the middle of the night. My husband goes to work at 4.30am. This is what we do to minimise the impact on neighbours. If you have an issue with it, get over it.
I know it doesn't really help you with your problem. Mostly just letting you know you're not alone!
As for your daughter naturally talking loud, once she moves out of home for awhile, she will tone it down a bit. It took me a little while, but I talk at a normal level now. My step father died 30 years ago and mum's been with her current partner for 28 years. He's now got age related deafness and instead of talking loud naturally, I have to make a conscious effort to do so. Going to her place now is just like when we were growing up. Loud phone calls, loud TV, loud talking.
Good luck with it all. I'm sure it will all work out for you one way or another.
