Teenage depression linked to Over Protective parents

[donnashuggy]

Do you encourage your kids to take risks? I know I do.

http://www.smh.com.au/national/health/overprotective-parents-are-linked-to-teenage-depression-201305...

[cherry*135]

When I left home and moved away at 19 if I didn't go to a phone box and ring home once a week I receive a Telegram which simply read 'Ring Home URGENTLY' :^O

:^O

How times have changed since then. Now it would be sending about  50 sms's to the child you haven't heard from or perhaps have a few words with them on their FB page if they have their parent as a friend on there.

[serendipityricho]

Re teenage depression.and over protective parents.

The problem is ---wanting the latest  electronic gadgets and clothing.

-Peer group pressure is applied and some parents can pay for these items-

others can not.

Every ones a loser-just saying.................Richo.

[i-need-a-martini]

Absolutely the 2 are linked.

We all have a predilection toward anxiety. Some more than others. And it doesn't take much to trigger it into becoming a full blown depression.

So if parents exhibit behaviour that makes kids anxious it makes perfectly logical sense that they are more likely to suffer depression.

And if you think you aren't over protective then have a think about all the hundreds of little things you/we say to our kids that could have them questioning if the world is safe - "don't touch the toilet seat in a public toilet", "can't cross the road without an adult", "can't eat food that's fallen on the floor". "wash your hands before every meal.". They all sound like minor things but for a kid prone to anxiety in the first place all of those things mean sickness, accidents, dying.

I read a study a few years ago that said all adults with depression had some form of separation anxiety as children. And as separation based anxieties are increasing we are going to see an explosion in depression in the next 2 decades.

Separation anxiety has skyrocketed because we do all we can to make our kids feel safe and we tell them nothing will harm them if mum and dad are here. So we make all their decisions, we keep them close, we don't let them out of our sights. So once they have to fend for themselves, they are lost.

[freddie*rooster]

now don't be cheeky mum

😮

:^O

[the_great_she_elephant]

Yep

Geez, that must have been hard.:-x

At least I had the advantage that I was moving to a country where people  spoke  the same language as me - more or less.:^O.

[*notatroll]

6-1x0+2÷2=1

[bella_again]

I think it is mostly economic also bella (judging by the young adults my daughters know). All though there would be exceptions to that.. young or older adult children, who pay little or no board, have their food cooked, washing done by Mum etc, don't help out at all around the house/yard.. those ones need a shove out the door:-D.

A young friend of my daughter has just finished his apprenticeship, has a very well paid job now, lives at home, saves heaps of money, and will buy a unit to rent out soon.. I see that as parents helping him to get ahead in the world.

I see it that way to, our main goal in life even thought our circumstances are diff to most is to develop independence but do all we can to see them get ahead.  It should be said though that there are many adult children who stay at home longer and contribute a lot to the  household.  Ultimately I think it comes down to how one is brought up.

[Anonymous]

~one of my parents is a fundie. I grew up under very controlled circumstances, and was depressed as a teen.

Im also thinking what Martini said about seperation anxiety. I was adopted.