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izabsmiling · ‎04-01-2013

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Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

freakiness · ‎07-01-2013

DDB, Just exploring that concept in another situation.

If you were at a social event which was attended by security ..and there was a group of abusive people who's behaviour was anti social would you expect that you or them should be told to leave ?

it would depend on how "abusive", what type of event, etc.

If we're at a huge sporting event and they're yelling abuse at the umpire or opposing team I'd ignore it, unless it was way too extreme. If they're abusing other patrons I would not expect security to warn and turf if they persist.

I think we can be a bit precious at times in our expectations of behaviours.

izabsmiling · ‎07-01-2013

maybe Freak , maybe some kids are picking up that it is precious to expect socially appropriate behaviour ?

freakiness · ‎07-01-2013

maybe Freak , maybe some kids are picking up that it is precious to expect socially appropriate behaviour ?

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The trouble is socially acceptable is defined differently by everyone and what is acceptable in one instance is not in another.

If it's an open air event with a lot of people you should expect to encounter noise and silly people. If it's the theatre you should expect silence.

I don't get the problem and I've no idea of what your comment means.

What I find not unacceptable others might find unacceptable... eg. swearing at a noisy function/event. I couldn't give a toss, I'd rather hear a lot of F words in general than a couple of nasty sexist or racist comments aimed at people.