Tolerance

[izabsmiling]

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann 

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

[at_wicks_end]

If you really felt bullied, you would not keep coming back to post.  You go off on tangents, right off topic, and directly ask specific posters questions, and keep at them.  That, in your definition, is a form of bullying.  (not mine, to me it is just rude and offensive)  As far as I can see you do nothing but encourage people to react to what you post.  You obviously get some form of enjoyment from it.

You continually bring up that you are a carer, that you son is disabled, that your whole lot really is pretty rotten.  You know that copy/pasting great volumes of text is annoying to others and very little of it, I imagine, would get read.  If nothing else, it annoys the begeezus out of me having to scroll thru it all the time.  But, as others have suggested to you time and again that you do not do it, yet you persist, you obviously do not care about other posters yourself.  You could just post links, with a short summary of what it is about instead.

I can say, that when I rarely drop in here for a read, I see you are making any "popular" threads about yourself.  Personally, you turn me off contributing here, and I am sure I am not the only one. 

I challenge you not to report this one. 

Leave you to it.  Nothing will change.......  Just more people will leave or just drop in for a read now and then.

[primaryaim]

I rarely read anyone's long copy and paste posts, especially when the paragraphs are not tidied up and it is one large block of information..... but I find it laughable that anyone would leave or be driven away because they don't like the posting style of one poster, or they dislike having to scroll past long posts.

I don't see anyone saying that to the other posters on this board who do large copy and paste posts.

I also find it amusing that some posters think that everyone should react to posts as they do. We are all different, one cap does not fit all.

[izabsmiling]

I just don't understand why some feel that they should be able to decide and judge what another poster can and can't post about their lives or anything else and how they should and should not post

and the concept of complaining about having to read it ????

no one has to

and saying someone shouldn't mention a disabled family member they care for ? wow 

[poison_ivys_pen]

I wonder if anyone has ever considered that Iza might have been making a point in what she was doing?

Obviously sometimes the penny don't drop for some.

[*crikey*mate*]

I do agree with you on that point Iza, if you want to continually post huge scrollers, then as far as I'm concerned - Go for Gold. I'm the last person in the world who could criticze a scroller, but mine are at least generally my own words and work, and I post them with the understanding that probably no one would read them,,,,

But IMO they don't help you get your point across to the largest possible audience as it has been indicated a few times now that some people just don't bother to read them and scroll on by.

So, as Wicks End has suggested, in order to help yourself to get the point across to the widest audience possible, isn't it worth considering providing a brief summary of the article and then posting the link where possible?

Just hit the main points and provide the back up/explanation when needed or for those who want to know more.

I know there are some times when a person does need to provide a lengthy document, but not all the time. The saying "Less is more" is true for posting as well.

And yes, talk about anything you like, that's your right - but after the first 5 or 6 times, well it seems that some start to find it a bit tedious and may make a few comments....

I'm not saying it's right, but it seems to be what happens.

*shrugs*

[vintage-star]

I wonder if anyone has ever considered that Iza might have been making a point in what she was doing?

Obviously sometimes the penny don't drop for some.

Wouldn't it be easier just to state the point!!

[azureline**]

As long as I have been here, there has been a long list of posters telling others how and what to post....that never changes but some can't see that what they complain about, is actually what they have done/are doing themselves.

It's a circle... and I have done it myself......

However, I can't understand why some have no empathy? or respect for the rights of others.

[**meep**]

Trish :-x

I agree with a lot  of what you said and I am happy for you but I would like to comment on the following:

The best "revenge" (for want of a better word) is to live happily and not let them see they have gotten to you. They will get bored and move on.

If the bullying is serious enough, there should be consequences.   By showing them they are not "getting to you", as you said, will most probably make them continue this behaviour towards another person.  I dont see that as a solution.

The Australian Human Rights Commission addresses this issue here:

The Commission is interested in identifying safe and appropriate ways to support people who want to be defenders of, or stand up for, victims of violence, harassment and bullying. This is important as some people feel uncomfortable witnessing bullying but may be unsure what to do to stop bullying happening.

Active bystanders can play an important role in stopping bullying. This is because:

bystanders are often present online when bullying occurs bullying behaviour is reinforced where people watch or are present but do nothing when bystanders intervene, bullying is more likely to stop.

Bullying is everyone’s problem. If bystanders take safe and appropriate action to stop bullying, this allows all of us to be part of the solution to bullying.

It's up to everyone to create a safe environment and we can all help. Motivating bystanders to act when they witness bullying is now being promoted as a response, whether in schools, workplaces or more broadly in the community.

http://humanrights.gov.au/bullying/cyberbullying/bystanders.html

As to the OP,  something is obviously bothering her,  if this is her way of dealing with it....well....

and Iza if it is something that the posters here can help you with, you need to ask, be more specific......you never know,  maybe its something that can be sorted out.

[*crikey*mate*]

I wonder if anyone has ever considered that Iza might have been making a point in what she was doing?

Obviously sometimes the penny don't drop for some.

Well, if the comments in this thread alone are any indication, if Iza wants other people to get her point, she better start supplying either a map or a list of directions/instructions.

[**meep**]

but then again, i understand how difficult it can be to actually be more specific......