Tolerance

[izabsmiling]

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann 

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

[poison_ivys_pen]

On the money Az 🙂

[azureline**]

It isn't a roundabout way, imo. She looks to be trying to do it with a less personal slant... as it also involves the treatment of others in a similar fashion.

[**meep**]

Its almost impossible to be directly critical of someone,  we all know how confrontations end up, diplomacy doesn't work either.....

[poison_ivys_pen]

Maybe Crikey but you know sometimes some may think the same about your scrollers too :^O mostly I scroll past 😄

[j*oono]

I think you most certainly have got it right Azureline.

[*crikey*mate*]

If one of my kids told me they were being bullied, the first thing I would do is to try and evaluate why it is that they were being bullied with a view to determining if they were doing anything to encourage it/bring it on themselves.

If they were, and it wasn't something beyond their control, then I would try to help them adjust their behaviour so that it was more socially acceptable.

[**meep**]

i do get the feeling, that deep down, or maybe not so deep, someone knows exactly what Iza is trying to say. 

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

I absolutely agree with you Meep, people standing by and watching bullying without stepping in is the same as bullying. My post was just how I have dealt with my case longterm.

It astounds me the way adults behave here. I have done things I am not proud of either, but I have learnt from it. Hopefully one day others will too.

Now I need to get back to my assignment, have a great day everyone.

[*crikey*mate*]

Maybe Crikey but you know sometimes some may think the same about your scrollers too :^O mostly I scroll past 😄

LOL I did acknowledge that back there a bit - but ya musta scrolled past it LOLOLOL

but the point I got from that is I try to keep em down, cos I know peeps don;'t always like them and if I do write one, I just have to accept that people probably aren't going to read it, or they are going to complain about it - just as I said to Iza.

I communicate heaps via email with one of my really good friends, and my scrollers drive him nuts~! LOLOL

I just tell him it's part of my charm LOL

[j*oono]

If one of my kids told me they were being bullied, the first thing I would do is to try and evaluate why it is that they were being bullied with a view to determining if they were doing anything to encourage it/bring it on themselves.

If they were, and it wasn't something beyond their control, then I would try to help them adjust their behaviour so that it was more socially acceptable.

Kids that are being bullied should never have any of the blame put on themselves.  I think that is a poor approach and one that is used sometimes by schools.

Instead of dealing with the bully, they move the victim.