Tolerance

[izabsmiling]

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann 

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

[twinkles**stars]

Until such time as I see Iza initiating derogatory or nasty posts or making snide comments to other posters I will continue to support her right to post whatever she wishes to or contribute to any thread she chooses.

I do not see that as 'egging on' in any way.

I tend to scroll past cut and pastes and long diatribes and can usually ignore others whose posts are clearly intended to inflame.  In this instance, I cannot 😐  

You have said what I have been thinking all along...but more clearly:)

[mtnlane]

The issue of groups is one recommended by the mods to facilitate discussion between like-minded posters and avoid those posters that some may wish not to engage with.

Being denied access to any of those groups is not bullying imo, simply a recognition that those in the group have no wish to engage with an applicant who may have applied.

[azureline**]

So, what about my example where a person applies to join one of the private groups but is excluded from joining?

I am not sure, I would not think it was....but didn't I address that earlier? I have not sought to join a group, had no idea you could but would not anyway......unless it was a special interest one. Sometimes groups end up worse than open posting I hear.

[twinkles**stars]

The issue of groups is one recommended by the mods to facilitate discussion between like-minded posters and avoid those posters that some may wish not to engage with.

Being denied access to any of those groups is not bullying imo, simply a recognition that those in the group have no wish to engage with an applicant who may have applied.

And again I agree with you.

[azureline**]

The issue of groups is one recommended by the mods to facilitate discussion between like-minded posters and avoid those posters that some may wish not to engage with.

Being denied access to any of those groups is not bullying imo, simply a recognition that those in the group have no wish to engage with an applicant who may have applied.

That makes sense....

[*crikey*mate*]

so ho0w then is that different from a group of children in the school yard excluding a child from their group with whom they have no wish to engage?

[freakiness]

If a person wanted to join one of the private groups here on eBay, if their application was not successful and they were purposely excluded from that group, would this be a form of bullying?

Wow, from the whinging about groups I've seen I'd say it was a lucky escape  

[mtnlane]

Posters telling others to ignore comments by Iza........

I did that azureline** - not only to Iza but also to the posters whom I felt were harassing her.

I was simply reminding them of the option available to them if they did not like what Iza was posting and in Iza's case because the things that were being said were unacceptable and hurtful to her.

[twinkles**stars]

so ho0w then is that different from a group of children in the school yard excluding a child from their group with whom they have no wish to engage?

You don't know the difference lol

hmmmm face to face opposed to 'strangers' on the internet. *shakes head*

[j*oono]

Crikey, I'm sure most boardies would know which members they enjoy chatting with and would be unlikely to apply to join one that was held by members that they didn't enjoy chatting with.

Except in cases such as the "no strings attached" group.  I'm sure a fair few stringers applied to join that one just for a joke ;\