W'hy Can't Anyone Do Something????

[kengillard]

My neighbour needs medical help.  

[the_hawk*]

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@lyndal1838 wrote:

Gill, as long as you are bailing her out of trouble she will accept it.

The next time you decide to check up on her I would go quietly to the place she may have fallen...if she is there I would go home and ring the ambulance....but do not be there when they arrive.

They won't leave her there and you can truthfully say you are not going to be responsible for her any more.  And ring her son!!!  He is eventually going to have to front up and accept his responsibilities.

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Dont call an ambo, as I said last time call the police and then she wont have a choice if she wants help or not, they will make sure she gets an assesment 

[azureline**]

Hope you are feeling better today Gill.

How is the OH doing in his new residence and are you happy with his care?

[newstart2380]

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@meh_too wrote:

She is accepting help - yours. Be kind to yourself - cut her off.

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Agree as hard as it is your health is more important than her health and she is being very selfish by refusing assistance and depending on you, me thinks she is not as silly as she would like you to think and is using you.

[rabbitearbandicoot]

Which doctor does she see? You MUST tell her doctor the whole story and get him/her to arrange something. Tell the doctor that it is too much for you !!!

AND .... ring the son again !!!!! 

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Maybe, she was a selfish horrible mother, and the son wants nothing to do with her..... you can't make him care, or get involved.

[azureline**]

Maybe she is just an elderly lady who is scared? or even has dementia?

[sea_jay61]

Gil there is such a thing as Enduring Guardianship. The hospital and ancillary staff (ie social workers etc) can apply for this if her son is not willing to. II agree with the afore mentioned post about getting the rspca to take the chooks. This woman is not taking responsibility for herself and neither should you.

[kengillard]

haven't checked in here for a while.    thanks everyone for your suggestions.

I finally told her on Thursday night that I couldn't take her to the doc the next day, and that neither her other friend nor I could be relied on indefinitely...tried to get her to ring the DVA Taxi to take her....there's some confusion as to whether a trip to the GP is covered or not and maybe only specialist medical visits....DVA Pension......

  Either way she has to pay up front ($50) and fill in forms to post and they'll reimburse her...sounds a lot of hassle for some one in her mental state to do.   Haven't heard from her since.   which doesn't help me from worrying...friend and I are responsible for her by default.  friend is checking on her this afternoon and will let me know.  rspca is a good suggestion...will follow that up. people across the road from her have heaps of ducks geese and chickens.  so maybe they could look after them...but she's soooo rude to them, I doubt whether they'll want to.

Mr. Rabbit.   her doc..knows all about it, but she too is powerless to do anything apparently.   

I've heard from her son twice....he's approaching his local RSL Welfare officer for advice.   Also my local RSL Welfare officer is trying to do something.   She needs an ACAT assessment basically, but apparently if SHE refuses they can't do it.  ridiculous!  Do you ask a mentally ill person are they sane and ask permission to help?    no ...don't think so.  effing frustrating.

thanks again everyone.  have taken it all on board.  getting a bit agoraphobic here.. hiding from her and the world.  LOL.

[kengillard]

yes I am Az.   he's happy and I'm happy....until some silly person (his cousin) asked him was he happy?  he said "no I'm not"

silly bint.

he will have forgotten that by now tho.  some pluses.

[azureline**]

That is good then, nice when something goes right 🙂