What Do You Expect Your Family

[grandmoon]

to do with your Treasures and possessions after you die??

I was asked this today by a friend who is very upset the her Son in law has told her he will send all of her to the tip.

[just_me_karen]

Then she should update her will and leave the treasured possessions to someone who'd appreciate and care for it.

[grandmoon]

Neither of her 2 daughters want what she calls her treasures.

[imastawka]

My daughter's going to make a lot of money on ebay!  She says she will keep great grandma's china, but who knows.  I won't be here to give her grief over it

[just_me_karen]

She doesn't have to leave it to her children. She could leave it to friends, even a cats home lol.

My grandmother left instructions in her will, to give one piece of her china collection to each of the volunteers at the smith family (she volunteered there for 50 yrs) and they were thrilled to have a small memory of her. She left her house to her grandchildren, her money to her great grandchildren and nothing to her kids...not because she didn't like them, but she figured they didn't need it.

Then she left the entire contents of her house to the smith family as a donation. Lots of people do that and it's a good way to know your possessions will be contributing to the greater good.

[crystal**flake]

Keep the good stuff and give away the rest I guess.

[imastawka]

I'm a tad cynical about leaving possessions to charity.   I've personally known cases

where the volunteer workers have taken the cream of the crop for themselves.  And

now, with "work for the dole" there are even more "volunteers in the charity workforce.

[nevillesdaughter]

My Mum (mid 70's and with heaps of "stuff") regularly has conversations with me and my 2 siblings. Some personal items like jewellery, she has nominated who gets what in her actual will and with all her "stuff" - lots of antiques, china, artworks, collectables - she keeps a handwritten list (which she regularly has to update because she keeps buying), according tou our individual tastes. Foe example, she has a massive collection of antique bottles which I can appreciate from an historical point of view, and am always interested in hearing about, but definitely don't want to spend the rest of my days dusting the bloody things. Ditto my siter, but my brother loves them - he gets 'em. Sister doesn't like old stuff - so gets the more modern gear. I love art and antiques, so that's me sorted (she'll probably leave me Dad too).

Of course, every now and then, if we all get too cheeky and disrespectful, she says she's leaving it all to the cats' home!

Cheers,

Marina.

[*elizabeths-mum*]

It wouldn't worry me if the volunteers did take the cream of it, although I think more charities are getting stricter about that.

I think my bunch are planning on getting someone from the local antique shop in (after they have all finished fighting over the items they want) then the rest can go to charity. I won't be here to fret.

I think your friend's sil could have been a little more sensitive, grand moon.

[spotweldersfriend]

I'm taking all my music with me to the afterlife. There are only so many Gregorian chants I can listen to. I'm gonna liven up that place with Miles and Charlie:-)