Who is afraid of Dying/Death?.....*taboo subject yeah?

[fourandsixpants]

I'm not but read in local newspaper yesterday that a Clinical Psychologist and a meditation teacher are opening a 'Death Cafe' for informal forums and cups of tea's to look at how an understanding of death can bring richness to life.

....the gathering will look at end-of-life options, grieving for loved ones, meditation and emotional and legal issues associated with death......The more aware we are of death and it is going to happen to all of us, it makes life more imminent and in a way that is what this whole movement is about.......though people talk a lot more freely nowadays about childbirth and sex, death is still very much brushed over......The idea is that it is an informal gathering where people can come to talk about any aspect of conscious living and dying that interests them.

All wrapped up in a 3 hour session.

Thoughts?

[izabsmiling]

OP, I hope that you aren't facing this atm .The thing is no one knows do they ? and if you or anyone reading is facing it ...posters comments may make one feel bad about facing death  as though it isn't acceptable to talk about what one may be going through..

unless it's not death ? Is that kind of what you mean ? 

[spotweldersfriend]

I'm looking forward to it because I'll be sitting on God's right hand;-)

[bluecat*dancing]

When I was  a little kid, I was terrified of death because I had been told, more than once, that when you die you get buried 6 feet under where worms and maggots eat you. I would have been around 4 or 5 at the time.

Now, I am not afraid of death, and ,even though I am no hurry to go, I look forward to it. Its the method of dying that bothers me.

[*crikey*mate*]

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@spotweldersfriend wrote:
I'm looking forward to it because I'll be sitting on God's right hand;-)

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hope he doesn't get pins and needles in his hand then....

Me, nope, not afraid.

whoever said back there kind of sums it up for me - it's not the dying, but rather the manner in which it happens. And someone else said to die would be an awfully big adventure.

Those left behind will be well taken care of.

Besides, whilst they may be breathing and waking up each morning, so many people are already dead. They're so consumed in getting through each day that they forget to live life while they arte alive.

And wealth has very little to do with it. Even those who are the least wealthy of all can find things to bring themselves joy.

But so many wake up, make toast, go to work, copme home, watch TV and go to bed. Day after Day

That's not living, not by my definition, anyway.

I don't want to get old. CS taught me that. The ilness and the hardship of getting old scares the jeepers out of me.

And on a bit of a funny note, I think it was Lurker who once told me a benefit of getting old was you didn't have to go down the feminine hygiene aisle anymore. That cracked me up, but later I thought, if you don't do those pelvic floor exercises, doesn't that mean you have to go sown the inciontinence aisle instead?

Living scares me a heck of a lot. To die would be a relief.

[joz*garage]

knowing what i know about everything and what i believe, im not sure if im afraid to die or not  (i like to think im not)

i'd soon know when the time comes

[azureline**]

No, not afraid just don't want to leave.

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

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@i-once-was-bump wrote:

I am not afraid of death but am totally unnerved and terrified about being alive.

Will they take my organs for donation while I am still alive?

Will I be buried alive because some doctor made a mistake in declaring me dead?

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Don't worry about your organs being taken while you are still alive. It's bloody difficult to get organs donated. For the big organs like hearts and lungs etc you need to be brain dead and on life support. Even for tissue donation or corneas it's difficult to get the organ donation people excited about doing something in time, in my experience. I wouldn't sweat it. 

For the most part death is usually pretty bloody obvious. I'm no doctor and I can tell 😉

[the_bob_delusion]

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@paintsew007 wrote:

reply to izab ref:

I'm not afraid,Just worried for those I leave behind when I do.

For everything there is a season

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Yes I must admit a fair few years ago I was worried the same - my kids were young and I was quite 'anxious' about this.....if I died soon who will look after my children.....etc. So, I just went to my GP and talked about with them. Got the best reassurance IMO. I was told 'look there are plenty of really good people out there in our community who will take care of your kids if this happened'

Straight forward, realistic and believable and I accepted this allowing me to get on with the business of living:)

My mum (passed away 7.5 yrs ago) and I had many discussions about death and also same with her and 2 aunts and I. It was easy because we all had nursing experience. Nurses can talk about poo, wee, vomit, genitals, birthing, bloody entrails, oozing pus, sputum and death until the most hardened criminal passes out!! ....but it's just not an accepted mainstream topic and I believe it should be.....so we can help each other. There should not be any 'moderators' to shut us down if we want to talk about 'death' hey?

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THat made me laugh, they shut us down for much less. And with me, much much less. 

[the_bob_delusion]

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@spotweldersfriend wrote:
I'm looking forward to it because I'll be sitting on God's right hand;-)

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No, you're not. 

[the_bob_delusion]

What is it like being dead? The same feeling as you had before you were born. 

Every night you go thru the sensation of being dead. It's peaceful. You just don't exist.