Why would some people choose to be single?

[the_bob_delusion]

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[the_bob_delusion]

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@the_great_she_elephant wrote:

I suspect there may be a few sore botties in the morning.

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I hope it stays. It's much too good to get deleted. 

[*pepe]

you do realise trolls are like stray kitties - if you keep feeding them they will keep coming back....

[cherry*135]

You have to admit it is a lot dumb to identify who you work for (on a public forum) give your age, presumably the ID is childrens names.. your annual salary, your OH occupation and salary..

I hope if they come back they have some NEW material.

[azureline**]

I don't mind being old, it has advantages

My 4 yo grandie asked me today why do all the teachers at his brother's school have the same first name?

"miss" it's very strange they all are called that.

[cherry*135]

Cute, az.

We all get old, noone is exempt.. all though cosmetic surgery can assist these days with looking younger.

[just_me_karen]

OMG I just scrolled through a500 posts, what a long argumentative thread.

It's true in some third world countries or perhaps some aussie extreme lower socioeconomic families, people do have children to care for them in old age....or so I've read. I believe, however, that's not the primary reason for having kids except for the seriously self centred.

[kennedia_nigricans]

I empathise with both sides.

I had a boyfriend for several years. He is a good man. Honest, intelligent and has a good (sometimes sarcastic) sense of humour.

He also was morbidly jealous for no reason. He would accuse me of meeting or looking at other men. I did not. Never. it was all in his imagination.

In the end I broke up with him, and only afterwards I felt that incredible relief. I never felt so free and relieved in my live before or after.

I was very content with being a single, not intending to give up this freedom again. I felt so free and happy, it's hard to describe to someone who never had an experience like that. It's like being a bird flying freely in the air, be the reflection of the sun of the waves in the sea.

Then I met neo here. Some know the story. I thought he was  a she, middle aged wih kids like everyone else here.

Yadda yadda we are married for several years and I can not imagine life without him. There is no replacement and I wish to die before he does.

[gewens]

Hello, everyone. This thread has gone off-topic. Let's go back to the orignal question and talk in a civil manner. 🙂

[joz*garage]

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@**freethinker_bob** wrote:

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@joz*garage wrote:

i dont believe some people choose to be single [deep down everybody wants a partner ..dont they?] its just that they dont have a choice - its just the way it is & learn to live with it

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I've read this a few times now. It's the most profound thing I've read from you Joz'. I've read the other response and that still hasn't contradicted your assertion.  You get one of my rare Kudos. 

THe question is not can you still be happy being single. 

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other response? other response? I don't think i made another reply...what do you mean bob? i havent read all relpys on here too [i'm in slack mode atm]

I assume on your bottom line theres a typo, so it should be "THe question is can you still be happy being single"?

it would be hard to give a general answer to that, due to eveyones different in handling their aloneness

I think it does go against human nature to be alone as we're social affectionate creatures but we have the ability to cope with being alone if the situation arose if our environment, unbringing or abuse led us that way. we'd be kidding ourselves if we didnt admit to ourselves we still desire a companion from time to time at the least, and i bet to all loners it would be a dream to find a long term soul mate.

personally, relationships have never worked for me, because from feeling no sense of love from my parents, which resulted in me having enough of a job dealing or coping for myself....so for me its easier to be alone....(would a potenial partner want someone who can only manage to cope with their own life & who has difficulties in recieving affection? they say theres a match made for everyone..hmm..mebbe

you get to know your limitations.

I would prefer to be happily married with kids...you'd live longer. but, i have learnt to be content with being alone too. 

[joz*garage]

so to answer your question

yes! you can somewhat be happy & content being single but you'd probably live longer and enjoy life better with the right partner.