Why.......................................??

[lis351]

Firstly, it is quite warm in WA at the moment :-p, everyone who knows me, knows how much I love the warm weather.

Catching up with friends yesterday, some were complaining bitterly about the heat. One turned to me and, largely in jest, told me to "stop grinning like that", another commented that I "need more meat on my bones, then I would be normal."

Im fairly certain this question has been asked before, but Im going to ask it again.

Why is it acceptable for larger people to point out that I "need more meat on my bones"?? It is not OK for me to tell them they need to lose some, certainly without offending them. And why am I expected to be flattered by such comments??

[the_bob_delusion]

built in insulation - just like a whale....

Insulation means you're less susceptible to both heat and cold?:|

[tcmsecretuseid]

Not quite, bob.

A heavy person has to exert more energy to move. Exerting energy causes the body to heat up. A heavy person might sweat more, which would help cool them down, but the energy used to cause that sweat means that they are hot. 

I was uncomfortably hot with both pregnancies. I'm sure that was due more to hormones, than weight. I didn't exactly pack on a ton of weight. 

One thing I find very interesting, is that women supposedly have more fat layers than men. Why does a man offer a woman his coat in cold weather then? Bob, do you offer your coat to your cold date? ;\

Lis, you are correct. People have no problem commenting on someone's skinny arms. Isn't that right, Bob? 

[tcmsecretuseid]

No, I was over here yesterday. 

Are you stalking me? :^O

[the_bob_delusion]

I was here first;\

[tcmsecretuseid]

Eh, don't flatter yourself, I said hi to Richo, and others first. 😛

[sarafi123]

I think there needs to be a bit of perspective here...

Our society does not admire Fat.

It is an insult to call someone Fat.

In our fat-hating society it isn't considered an insult calling someone skinny... you may not be pleased but society sees it differently.

People pull the Fat comments out as a derogatory comment and believe you me as a Fat person it is the first adjective pulled out and waved in your face when someone wants to insult you, put you down etc.

It constantly amazes and astounds me how much pure and utter venom, vitriol, scorn and complete and utter rudeness can be spewed forth at me a Fat person.

If I was a delicate wallflower I would have stopped participating in a lot of activities by now, so I can avoid the comments.

I don't get offended at the jesting comment - life if too short to worry about a clumsy buffoon, but please come and whine to me when you get abuse yelled at you walking down the street ...and when you see a "no skinny chicks" sticker on a car maybe we can talk as equally scorned members of society.

[azureline**]

I think it's terribly rude commenting on anything about people's physical appearance, whether it be fat, thin, short, tall, etc.

add age to that as well. My sis seems quite taken up with the idea she is younger than me, like she had some input into it? Odd.

I think being negative etc becomes a habit.

[*crikey*mate*]

Bob, do you offer your coat to your cold date? ;\

Not even a coat will warm 'em up once they're at the morgue....

[kengillard]

my grandaughter is thin and always will be...just like her father......they both have a fast metabolism and can eat and eat and never put on weight...

[izabsmiling]

People make comments like that to my OH quite a bit (he is very thin and always has been..and he can eat and eat lol) .One day a Man even said "my you are thin and then felt his arm muscles and said 'nice'" ......:.I think he was umm err 'shopping' IYKWIM ^O

Generally speaking, I agree with what others have said that people don't see comments on others being thin as negative or a personal judgement on that individual or at least not in the same way they might about a comment or judgement about an overweight person.

Maybe they see an overweight person and think that person is at fault/to blame and there is shame attached...not so with the thin person?