Young women now have "escape funds"

[cat_mioux]

Which I think is fantastic!

Apparently it's common now for young women in relationships to have a secret online account which they call their "escape funds" just in case the relationship goes pear shaped without warning.

Too many women have been suddenly dumped and left either homeless or without the finances to pay the bills/rent/mortgage on their own. I was talking to a young woman at work recently and when she broke up with her husband she was left without a job, no car and homeless. I was telling my daughter about her and she told me lots of her friends have escape funds and she's planning one herself.

When my ex left he took half the furniture and left me paying huge rent on my own.

You may need to leave your partner for whatever reason - domestic abuse, he's cheating on you .... if I had an escape fund I wouldn't have had to hang around waiting 2 months for my ex to get his act together and move out.

So I encourage all women to have an 'escape' secret online account where you can have a few $ direct debited into the account weekly/monthly and forget about it ....

You might be sitting there smug and complacent thinking your relationship would never get to that stage but you never know.

[lakeland27]

men are just in much in need of such things. a good idea.

[cat_mioux]

I agree men should also have an escape fund.

But remember, women are the ones who have to leave their job to have babies and most women are the ones who stay at home to raise the kids thus losing precious ladder climbing years in their career. When they rejoin the workforce they usually earn less than their partner.

[kyliecrv]

I had one.

[cat_mioux]

I had one.

:-x

[lakeland27]

I agree men should also have an escape fund.

But remember, women are the ones who have to leave their job to have babies and most women are the ones who stay at home to raise the kids thus losing precious ladder climbing years in their career. When they rejoin the workforce they usually earn less than their partner.

i don't disagree, its just that i've had to find accommodation for many a bloke in the same position.

[kyliecrv]

I had one.

it was great as I still had bills etc with 2 teens (not his children) plus he baby that is his.

it takes time to sort out a separation etc and worse if it is a messy break up.... life continues on around you so the money I had was well used!

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

I've had one for donkeys ages.

I started squirreling money away when I was about 14 and the evil stepmonster was threatening to kick me out of home.

[lurker17260]

I always had "running away money". I think my mother told me about it. Not that I ever came close to needing it, but I always felt more comfortable knowing it was there. 

[catsnknots]

I agree that everyone should have a personal account that is their money only,  but I do not agree with a "secret" account... 

To have any secrets like that in a relationship is bad... 

and if it is found out about by a lawyer it will be used against you.. 

I know of men that have had secret bank accounts to hide money from their wives so they can't get it in a divorce... i see this type of sneaky business in exactly the same way.