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Post a lolcat.............it always seems to upset our neighbours.................
It is a very hard thing when you have a neighbour who is unbalanced.I have a major problem with mine who im realy sure has a major mental issue .
It makes it all the more difficult as you always have that awareness that there may be concequences such as malicious reporting ect and you are stuck with the situation if you both own the houses
I think you will have to balance your plan of action with how badly it is affecting you . I was on speaking terms with mine for years always knew she was an odd one but in the last 2 years or so she has realy gone downhill mentaly.She is also totaly alone as her only family members refuse to let her know their contact details due to threats and aggressive behavior .
It is not just that she gets very aggressive on ocasions as much as what became constant harrasment . Every litte problem she had she was comming to my door or calling out for half an hour to get my attention ,I finaly cut off all contact and just got locks for the gate so she cannot get in.I avoid her as much as possible but if we do meet I just give her a very brief answer and no real comment .It sounds very similar to your situation as mine too repeats herself over and over usualy about her health /work problems .Totaly self obsessed
To give you an example last month she went crazy over windchimes ,now I dont have any but both houses at the back do ...
I was woken by her screaming and banging on my wall at 2.40 am going quite wild that "you have to xxxxxxx do something about your xxxxxxx windchimes ,get out here and speak to me ,now now get out here " all the time she was just crazy so theres no way im opening the door .
I went to a side window and said "I dont have windchimes go away now " she just proceded to scream on for 10 min about how I had to do something as she could not sleep and would kill herself and loose her job ect and I had to do something.
She finaly realised I was ignoring her and went back home ,not sure what happened but I heard glass breaking (by this stage I was seriously thinking i would have to call police) but it worked by just not playing her game she left me alone and thats all I do.
The next day she came up to me at the Railway station and started in a real weedling voice to try and tell me she was sorry about loosing her temper but that I had to understand she is not well,has a tumor,gets headaches,is in trouble at work ,depressed and the windchimes are going to cause her to perhaps kill herself...I just said " it is not my problem " they are not mine and walked off It may sound mean but in the end you will have to learn to cut your neighbour off totaly or you will find she will become unbearable if mine is anyting to go by .
Yours sounds very manipulative ,just change your number and give her brief replies if she speaks to you, she may, like mine feel you have some relationship . The kind of thing mine would do before it got realy bad is constantly demand to know when I was working,what I was doing on my days off ,what was in my mail /parcels things like that..she was very anoying that way but looking back you realise it was more than just curiousity it was realy very strange.Its like these people have to control somebody with watching you and trying to involve you in their problems and life
Do you have any reason to think if she started making complaints they would be upheld,I was very worried about that as I have parrots and in the end although she was good at saying id be sorry if I didnt do what she wanted -cut down my gum tree/kill all the frogs in the yard/use candles as she could not sleep with light coming from my house/not do any gardening till about 3pm as she needed to sleep and me being in the yard caused her dog to bark constantly and wake her..these are just a few of the fun complaints Iv had in the last 4 years or so--
she has not loged any complaints...I think she is actualy a bit confounded by my response in just ignoring her and her blackmail and threats.
I was advised to try this ignoring her as much as possible by a doctor as I was getting realy stressed and something had to be done and I realy didnt want to hae to involve the police but it was getting to the stage where I was actualy afraid .It has worked for me in most cases.
its a cheerfull thought bit the more she has it over you the worse it will get
good luck with it
