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on โ12-08-2014 06:31 PM
I,m in horror state ....
have contacted my mother and found out she a hooker (hoarder).....broken english's.lol
just wondering if other would try help by seller her things on e-bay or just dump it .....???
or feel it's too hard buckets let her go as long she happy .......
some insight please
or coments......
desperated
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on โ12-08-2014 06:46 PM
Obviously you are not too close to your mum if you have just found out this.
Does she want your help?
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โ12-08-2014 06:57 PM - edited โ12-08-2014 06:59 PM
Gently suggest going through things. Don't force it.
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on โ12-08-2014 07:01 PM
I have clean her house already 5 years ago .......... 20-30k cost me ....
we don't get along
I,m her only child ..at 56 years old I,m still her child .......
some say and think that's not right ....
but true .......
welcome to real world .........
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on โ12-08-2014 07:08 PM
need some ideals how to go about this ........???
5 years ago didn't work .....
ideals please .!!!!!
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on โ12-08-2014 07:14 PM
Did you or do you seek professional help? Five years ago or now? I don't mean help with cleaning.
I mean help for your mother, talk to her doctor etc. There is a website called anxiety australia and it
has some information on hoarding. Might help you to understand things more or give you some
options to consider.
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on โ12-08-2014 07:18 PM
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on โ12-08-2014 07:19 PM
I think before you attempt another clean up I would get professsional help first!
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on โ12-08-2014 09:22 PM
She needs psychiatric or psychological help as hoarding is a psychological condition similar to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I don't mean that in a horrible way. She will have an emotional attachment to everything in her house, even the stuff we perceive as being rubbish. There are people who can help her, but it's something that needs to be a gradual process. She will give a (valid to her) reason for hanging on to everything she has. She will have a 'use' for everything, whether it be empty soup cans or newspapers.
It's not just a matter of going in and cleaning the place up as she will just start collecting again and be back to square one in no time, as you've already seen. She needs to deal with the root cause. A good place to start is with her local doctor, who can then refer her onto the appropriate specialist. There are also professional cleaners who deal with hoarding clean ups. I wouldn't just allow them free range as it's quite possible she is hoarding things of value.
When the clean up starts, it's a good idea to have her psych there with her, so her emotional state can be monitored, as she will be on an emotional roller coaster. It could take months, but she needs to be able to detach herself from all her stuff, which the psych can help her with.
Good luck with it all. With the right help, she will be OK.

