Being judged, repeat, repeat

[buyingandsellingmandy]

Hi

I was a newcomer to this site and I came for help. Some of you were very respectful, helpful, investigated a few things for me.

But, there were alot of people that were critical of me in so many different ways.

I had come to this site for help, that's all I wanted, help to prove I had paid for an item.

Some of you were down right mean.

More than not, alot of people were very critical over and over again. If I made a mistake, then I got criticised for that. I want all of you to read all my responses to my very first question on this sight.

If a person comes to this site for help, be respectful from the very beginning. They need yr help, not anything else.

One person i nearly reported.

I was constantly being bombarded about anything I had to say, in the end, that wasn't the help I needed. I don't know how old some of these people were, but to me, it's not funny when u need help to be criticised all the time.

If I had not won my case, I would of left ebay for another site. To the person who was so rude from day one, you need a lesson in how to talk to females. Coz yr really bad at it.

For a person to have this sort of experience, very first time, your getting a bad reputation.

I showed alot of people your responses, friends of mine, people in the street, random people I didn't know, just wanted to see what other people I didn't know thought.

Only the people that were helpful got a mention. Others that were critical, well, your site is getting a bad reputation, because of you're responses.

You can say, now I'm being critical, yes I am, coz if I don't tell you, someone else will eventually.

I think age might have something to do with it. Some of you sound like teenagers.

A little respect goes a long way in this life.

Most people I spoke to said, I'm never going on there to get help. I said, are you sure u wouldn't if u were desperate like I was for people's help? Response, not in a million years was a common answer.

All I asked of each person was, can u read this, tell me what u think, nothing more.

How many people did I ask? All the people that live in my court, parents, teenagers alike, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19. Then I went to my town shops, I know most shop owners, local people. Same reaction.

If this makes u all angry, well, it hasn't sunk in yet, the reality of it all.

To those that helped me, a big thank you, it was very rare, but, I did notice you.

[janeababe]

After reading the OP and this thread,  I reckon the OP is full of herself. 
Fancy trying to convince folk here that she got strangers to read, and comment on a random thread on eBay….. and then critique it!  😆

She must think we’re daft! (Except springy, she’s wonderful as always. 😘) 

What a load of crock and bull! 

……Comes into an Internet forum, got butt-hurt….. stews on it for 8mths or so, then devises a wild storyline and comes back here to showcase her achievements regarding other posters on here,  to strangers in the outside community!  (She must not have been subjected to strict lockdown orders I guess)

Wake up love. If anyone needs peace, it’s you. All 12 steps of them! 😎

peace out ☮️

[digital*ghost]

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@sugar249 wrote:

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No one has said it but I will,  does anyone really believe that OP got all of these people including strangers to read that thread,

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Whether or not there's any truth to it, it's concerning - beyond anything related to the forum itself, and I mean that in an empathetic way towards to OP. 

What do I see? I mean it's highly subjective as I can only pick up on things I recognise in myself which may or may not be applicable, i.e. this is a pointed and dramatised version, but I've stewed over perceived injustices myself for a little while, muttered under my breath for a bit, had a shower argument or two over them, probably escalated the injustice / unfairness to myself a little each time, assigned malice to the perpetrators because it's easier to solidify my victimhood, until I came up with (what I thought were) mic-dropping comebacks and turning myself into the hero instead (thus, I metamorphise from an outsider, into The Outsider, the rational and objective one parents warn their bullies about....or something). 

It's normal, and healthy - to a degree. It's clearly a coping mechanism for me and a lot of others, one that works well and I get over whatever got under my skin in a day or two and move on, rather than attempt the comebacks in real life - I don't like breaking the fantasy of a self-satisfied & happy ending 😂. I'm not qualified to assess if there are deeper issues here, so I'm trying to be delicate, but ultimately I maintain that it's simply just concerning if that process is ongoing for this amount of time, regardless if it manifested to involving others, so at the end of the day, I hope they find themselves a really good support network and can leave this all behind. 

[imastawka]

For perceived injustices that get me riled up, I prefer to type away furiously.....

and then hit the back button.

Very cathartic, and no-one gets hurt.

[sugar249]

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@imastawka wrote:

For perceived injustices that get me riled up, I prefer to type away furiously.....

and then hit the back button.

Very cathartic, and no-one gets hurt.

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Interesting that, I have about 50 plus emails in my drafts folder, where I have done that,  bashed away at the keyboard, letting out my frustrations to whatever the issue or person,  Not one will ever get an address placed on it, or the send button will never be hit.

But gee I felt a hell of a lot better afterwards.

[sugar249]

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@digital*ghost wrote:

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@sugar249 wrote:

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No one has said it but I will,  does anyone really believe that OP got all of these people including strangers to read that thread,

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Whether or not there's any truth to it, it's concerning - beyond anything related to the forum itself, and I mean that in an empathetic way towards to OP. 

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I do wonder if 50 poor strangers will be shown this transcript in a few months time,  you never know I may be one of them, I wasn't shown the first sadly as the OP may have being given a different view.

[e_purchasing]

I printed this off and showed 10 random strangers who told me to f off and leave them alone as there are much bigger issues such as the virus, climate change and their own problems going on.

I recorded their responses on my phone in disbelief and now to show that to 10 other strangers and my cat.

[padi*0409]

@ Stawks and Sugar.

My solution ?

                                  

Spoiler

............needless to say, the guy at the local computer shop lurves me...........

[sugar249]

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@e_purchasing wrote:

I printed this off and showed 10 random strangers who told me to f off and leave them alone as there are much bigger issues such as the virus, climate change and their own problems going on.

I recorded their responses on my phone in disbelief and now to show that to 10 other strangers and my cat.

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Hey was that you on the street corner this morning,  my apologies, I don't normally use those words.

[imastawka]

Yes you do!

[padi*0409]

@ Stawks and Sugar.