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bro-lu2410 · ‎22-08-2016

Hi i need help please, im having trouble with a seller, i bought 2 pair of courts for my daighter who is getting married and needs the shoes in now 3 weeks,

1St pair didnt fit and seller is not refunding my money, in which they did state on the sight full refund, im getting long emails of the seller telling me to keep 1st pair and they will give me a $4 refund, i just want my money back $32 n i relise i lost the $10 P+H

now the second pair seller has charged me now $42 quickest delivery and still hasnt sent them my daughters wedding is now in 3 weeks, this seller is sending on going long page emails of how there loosing and to keep first pair and whn can they send second on daughters wedding date

HELP im at witts end

springyzone · ‎23-08-2016

I don't know that many people buy white shoes any more for weddings.

Most I've seen are more a pearl or ivory colour.

My daughter has a problem with her knee and wore flatties-they were silver sandals and looked pretty jazzy. $129 they were, and we got them marked down in the winter sales, for $60. Very satisfactory moment it was when we found them in a store.

Lots of options with shoes & sandals.

imastawka · ‎23-08-2016

I maybe should point out that in 1971, when I was married, the parents expected a more

traditional approach.

I still would not have bought pearl or ivory. I just can't stand light coloured shoes/sandals

And where is the OP? Thought it was a matter of high priority?

davidc4430 · ‎23-08-2016

you were married 20 years before you were born, amazing!

i think the OP has decided to go with white gumboots, dare to be different i say.

springyzone · ‎24-08-2016

I know that all the planning for weddings can be very stressful when things aren't working to plan because you worry that they won't be sorted in time.

But the good thing about shoes is that there are lots of them around, all different styles, colours and places you can buy them.

I once went to a traditional church wedding, bride in lovely frock but barefoot, as were the bridesmaids. (Wedding brunch was at a yacht club on the beach) It actually looked fine, you wouldn't even have noticed the bride's feet 90% of the time. Personally I would prefer a sandal or something though to protect from pebbles etc

I was married ages ago too, stawka. I wore the traditional white shoes but I don't recall ever wearing them again so that was a bit of a waste of money.

I can understand the mother's upset about this transaction as she has now spent over $80 to get shoes and has nothing useful to show for it but I truly think this is the time to switch strategies, buy elsewhere, then tackle the ebay seller at leisure.

*tippy*toes* · ‎24-08-2016

My sister and I were both "brides" in that we had the traditional long dresses. Neither of us spent a fortune on anything because we couldn't see the sense. Neither of us are girly girls so figured we'd probably never wear white shoes again, which is why we both opted for boots that we'd both wear again (I think she copied the idea from me!). We were both older (early 30's) so much preferred spending what most would spend on useful things, like houses. We had a bit more sense as far as life goes than say someone in their early 20's that insist their life will be over if they don't spend what my whole house cost.

I was married in 2002 and total cost was $5,200. Friends who'd married the year before spent $55,000 and friends the year before spent $70,000. I couldn't see the sense in getting into major debt for one day. We had the church wedding, even though we're not religious. The reception was at the local RSL club in their upstairs function room that was decked out with all the frills that made you feel like you were in Buckingham Palace.

A work colleague made one cake and got one of her friends to decorate it. Total cost $40. I made the other cake that was used for dessert. It was a chocolate cake with chocolate icing and plastic farm animals on top because growing up all our birthday cakes were made like that. Total cost about $5. I grew my own flowers and one of my bridesmaids made them into bouquets. Total cost about $10. My cousins were flying from interstate and hiring a car, so we used their hire car as a wedding car and another friend let us use their brand new car. Total cost (to me) $0.

I looked at every dress in the shop and kept going back to the same one. Unbeknowns to me, it was on the sales rack. It cost me $200 marked down from $1,200. Mr Tippy had bought a new suit for a wedding the year before so wore that. The honeymoon came off the back of a shopping docket and was brilliant!

I hope the OP comes back and gives us an update.

springyzone · ‎25-08-2016

Sounds good, tippy. I wish they had a clapping icon here, I would use it. Well done!!! You're a legend.

I am a bit shocked at how much your friends spent.

I have just had 3 of my children marry in under 3 years.

At the first, even at a dedicated wedding venue with caterered reception for over 100 people, the total cost was just over $12,000 and with everything else thrown in, about $15,500. That's with a $2000 dress, the rolls royces, the florist bouquets, so it wasn't as if they were cutting back. All that was in 2013 so I am struggling to know how anyone managed to run up a $70k bill back in 2001.

My first daughter's shoes were Lily Rose ivory heels, marked down to $20.

From a store though.

Second daughter's wedding costs came in about the same.

I hope the OP comes back to let us know how she gets on too.

*tippy*toes* · ‎25-08-2016

I think that is quite reasonable for 3 years ago. What some spend is obscene. The bridezillas will tell you their life will be over if they don't have every little thing. Some think the more you spend the better the odds of the marriage lasting.

Guests don't care if your shoes don't have a little white bow on the back or whether the tablecloths have 2" pieces of ribbon spaced exactly 1" apart. The bride will go into meltdown if the ribbons are 1.5" apart and want to sue someone because her day is ruined.

I think a lot of expense these days is people trying to complete with celebrity weddings. It sounds like the OP was trying to be sensible with costs, hence trying to buy cheaper shoes online. I hope they didn't order a dress from eBay, I've heard some absolute horror stories of cheap wedding dresses coming from China.

shepherdsrule · ‎25-08-2016

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why did u even bother with this condescending reply? you should be reported...in fact i will

Oh No, Now I am in trouble..............seriously, for something as important as a wedding would you go on ebay to buy shoes ??? and then come here and look for help because they didn't fit or might be late............

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*tippy*toes* · ‎25-08-2016

I don't think that was the OP unless they posted under another ID. I think it was someone who lives under a bridge.

springyzone · ‎25-08-2016

think a lot of expense these days is people trying to complete with celebrity weddings. It sounds like the OP was trying to be sensible with costs, hence trying to buy cheaper shoes online. I hope they didn't order a dress from eBay, I've heard some absolute horror stories of cheap wedding dresses coming from China

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So have I.

Now that I am (a lot ) older, I can see plenty of ways a person could economise on weddings if they had a mind to. Buying a frock from ebay could well be one way actually. But not a new dress from China. scrub that idea.

Lots of women sell their wedding dresses on ebay. Nothing wrong with a quality second hand frock, one that is pick up only from your local area, where you could go round and have a look before bidding etc. Often they go at very reasonable prices too.

I like to think of the 5 year rule ie who will remember/care about this in 5 years. How important will it be?

For weddings, you want to look nice & for everyone to enjoy themselves, but the minor details-most people won;t even remember in 5 months.

Ditto shoes.