The cerebral cortex has surrounded itself to dissipation. I think of this whenever I hear babble about the absolutes, or correctness - in this case an advice provided as the only truth on these boards and merely and simply fitting in with what the person would like to hear at the time - agreeable solution to her problem.
The person in question is likely to perceive any contrary argument as rude, and opposite to calm, pleasant or even structured.
What motivates my argument (and not what is necessarily correct) is that Milly payed for the dress after the seller not only sent a message saying that she is not willing to sell the dress any longer, shortly followed by a cancellation request - which Milly declined and then paid for the dress.
Who in their right mind can tell me that this is wise, correct and well thought and why? (Keeping in mind that seller is obviously not going to part with the dress)
Also keep in mind that a good argument is free and absent of conjecture:
If I don't do this, she may do that, or simply she may do nothing, as the seller originally indicated to Milly by refusing to honur the auction.
Then we raise the option of the negative feedback to not only teach her a lesson, but all the other poor buyers out there. Really??? Very few at that will learn anything from it, as majority of the Ebay buyers are driven by price.
Looking at sellers feedback if what majority of you are saying is correct and she is in a habit of doing this, I'm suprised that she has not received any negative remarks yet!
As far as the Buddhism and this argument goes - We do not naturally aspire to any hazy, floaty, narcotic Nirvana, where our critical and ironic faculties would be no use to us. Imagine a state of endless praise, gratitude and admiration, as Western Society ceaselessly enjoin us to do, and you have conjured a world of hellish nullity and conformism.
It is not what you think, but how you think.
P.S. Thanks Crikeymate for making me laugh - at myself that is! And apologies to those that don't get the meaning, as it certainly is not my intention to upset.
