**AUTISM / ASPERGERS SUPPORT GROUP**

[doll*obsession]

A safe place for all members with friends or family with ASD

Come and have a cuppa, share your joys, and vent your problems with other people who understand.

[bella_again]

LOL Velcro rocks in our house ROFL

Although my 12 year old finally got the hang of shoe laces lol The eldest gets too stressed and simply at this stage can't do it, so I figure that there are enough other things in life to worry about and have let that go for now.

[islandretro]

Mr 16 would probably happily wear velcro shoes and track pants everywhere, but I have always had to play the fashion police around here and make sure he doesn't inadvertently make himself more of a target for bullying. Took me years to stop him pulling his pants up under his armpits ::sigh:: He just doesn't have a clue, and couldn't care less what he looks like, but doesn't handle the resulting negative attention well.

His rabbit ear shoe lace tying is improving though with lots of practice, I think he is determined not to be the only person at uni next year who can't tie their shoelaces lol!

[pawsclawshooves]

Not a problem here with tying of shoelaces, starting achieving this skill when he was about 10.
Now if we could only ensure he could go the whole day without the laces touching the ground in any way?:| that would relieve:-) a bit of his stress, that and the constant checking!!!!!

[sheepy_1-4]

His rabbit ear shoe lace tying is improving though with lots of practice, I think he is determined not to be the only person at uni next year who can't tie their shoelaces lol!

still wouldn't worry - I'm sure that my brother went right through uni wearing thongs.......

but I can see how tying shoelaces would be important.. same skill required to wrap a present .....

oh and pulling his pants up to high? just buy his pants bigger and they will fall down - make sure he is wearing some fabulously outlandishly priced designer undies, and they will think he is trendy....

Seriously Now: I do hope that his persistence pays off for him though.

[mapalarkin]

Evening all
Wow its been hectic round here with school hols happening.If anyones got any spare valium send them to me lol.I have 7 yr old twins in the hols and they are right buggers.
ive started emailing and sending letters to local members both state and federal concerning darcys aid time.Im hoping to get in to see the federal member soon.She is really good and helps everyone.
Little Master 28 months is to start assesmants on August 19th.We start with hearing then the day after with speech.He is still not putting 2 words together and its a constant 'mum mum mum' or yelling and major tantrums.It got so bad a week ago I almost walked out of the house.
Darcy was never like this.He was just so quiet and in his own world.But I am lucky that I have a husband who understands and tells me to go out and calm down.So i joined the gym to work out all the stress and tone the body.My therapist told me that I have to stop revolving my life around my kids and take time for me.easier said than done some days but Im learning to let go a little.Im starting to trust others (like hubby) to watch the boys.My hubby is a good man and loves his boys but I just couldnt leave the boys with him because he couldnt look after them like I can.Its silly but its the mother in me.My boys my responsability.But Im learning.And Darcy got a red belt in karate.His teacher was so proud of him that he made a big fuss over it when he gave him the belt and the certificate.Hes as proud as punch.And I let hubby take him to get his grading and belt.See Im learning to let go more and more.Im a mother hen when it comes to my boys.I keep them under my wing safe and warm and dont let othrs in too often.But in the last few months Ive been lifting the wing up and letting them explore.Anyway Im off to watch grown men race around france on bikes and fall off lol.Cheers

[bella_again]

Hi Mapalarkin 🙂

Sounds like you are doing an awesome job, seriously!!! Good on you for writing letters and pursuing Darcy's funding further. Remember too their are advocacy groups around in Vic its parents vic and star but other states also have advocacy in place that you can access.

I understand the mother hen thingy, I think I am like that too to some extent!!! In fact I'm sure we all are lol! Letting go of our children is never easy but when we do let go just a little its wonderful to see them explore and become more independent. Rest assured though they still needs us! so we are never out of a job!!!! lol

With that said I'd better go to bed and leave hubby to watch the tour de france. My girl has got ski-ing in the morning and I have to be up early.

Have a good night :-x

[mapalarkin]

Thanks for that chit chat.Its good to know im not the only one who doesnt want to let go.The funny thing is that its only been since weve had the diagnoses that ive become like this.Ive always been protective but now Im dreadful.I let him go to vacation care but only becaue the lady that runs it is a special needs teacher and she understands how I feel and watches him like a hawk.Hopefully I will learn to let more people in.Today im actually letting my mum watch the kids while I go out to do some shopping.So here goes.Bye all

[krazy.kiwi]

As Chit chat said, we are all like that with our special kids.

I have lost "friends" because of it. My boy is 11 now and is allowed to do some things on his own, but I am still very careful about who is supervising him when amongst other people.

But I have learnt to leave the boys with Daddy and escape occassionally, I really, really need to do it for my sanity.

[pawsclawshooves]

My young man is 21 and I still do the mother hen thingy. He has acheived Sooo much in the past 3-4 years he just amazes me, but I am his mum and will always be. So don't think I will ever stop being the mother hen, not with him or with any of my other 4.
Ahh, life is never boring at my house 😄

[sheepy_1-4]

Just popping in to say Hi, will read through and catch up later on