Alcohol question

[hahahavefun]

If a small framed female say weighing around 46 - 50 kilos drank bourbon and coke from around 3.20pm to between 9 - 10 every week night do you believe she would still be over the limit if she got in her car to drive at say 6am the morning after . 

Someone i know drinks like this and its more on a Friday and Saturday night as she stays up later. She doesnt see her drinking as a problem because she budgets for it . In 6 days she has drunk 2 x 1.25 ltrs bourbon and started on a 3rd not to mention all the coke tht she has also .

I believe if she got pulled over on the way to work one morning she would blow over the limit, would you agree ?

[2106greencat]

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@buzzlightyearsgirlfriend wrote:

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@2106greencat wrote:

wow buzz, a little empathy would go a long way.

Yes, I am a recovering alcoholic, and I knew I needed help and thank God my kids got in my face and helped me thorugh it.

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Meh.

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Wow - and I thought I had problems.

I pity you, I really do, sorry but to be that heartless......words fail me.

[Anonymous]

There is really nothing you can do, youre right, unless she thinks she has a problem nothing you can do or say will have any effect.

maybe you could advise her and buy her a testy thingy and tell her to use it before she gets in her car? that's not calling her an alcoholic or saying she has a problem.

do you live with her, or flat together? that must be annoying for you if you do.

[2106greencat]

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@hahahavefun wrote:

I'll start by explaining more . She drinks Monday to Thursday from about 3.15 pm to between 9 - 10 PM only stopping at this time as she gets up for work those days at 4.45 am and leaves home at 6am . No breakfast only a cup of coffee . 

Friday she will start again around 3.15 pm and can drink till midnight till 1 or 2 the next morning .

Saturday she will start again around 1 to 3 pm and again will drink till early hours of the morning .

She never has breakfast , has lunch and dinner but these are not what you would call a large meal .

She drinks bourbon with Diet Coke which i have been told is worse then having normal coke cola.

A family member told her once she had a problem and she went off saying it isnt a problem because she budgets for her drinking .

If her time is delayed in the afternoon by a few hrs to have her first drink she starts getting agitated or peeved off .

Im very surprised she hasnt seriously hurt herself giving how she has been found some mornings with the latest episode of breaking a floor to ceiling high glass mirror in a section . Her excuse is she tripped over a towel because she never hax the light on .

I have been told unless people like this are willing to admit they have a problem there is nothing you can do .

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But at least you want to try - it's people like you that matter, so you do what you feel comfortable with - if it doesn't work out you will at least know you have tried to help a fellow human being who is quite obviously in trouble.

If it does work out...enough said. Don't be afraid to try.

[Anonymous]

They were where I was too.

But it was just a social event really, noone really paid any attention to the steps or anything.

do you drink? or no to everything? Ive never quite managed the no to everything approach.

[2106greencat]

The No to everything approach will never work.

An addict has to be treated like a child to a certain degree.

When you give a child instruction, you need to limit it to the amount they can handle at one time - chucking out "do this, then do that, do it this way" is information overload -  you need to give them time to absorb one thing at a time.

Same with addiction - deal with one addiction, then slowly deal with another if another exists.

Tell a person to stop gambling, stop smoking, stop drinking - all at once and you will have a meltdown of the highest order.

We can only deal with what we can when we can.

[joz*garage]

too right greencat, it took me a few goes to accept the cold turkey concept

"relasped" a few times and on the hard stuff too

evenutally got used to the idea though 

these days i do have an occassional drink duff, it's a waste of time and money really... i could down 2 bottles of wine before i feel an effect...go for the taste mainly, lol

[2106greencat]

hand in hand joz - you take it one day at a time

so far 287 days for me, and it is bloody hard, and every day I have to convince myself to NOT have a drink, rather than latch on to the first excuse I can come up with to have one.

day by day

[Anonymous]

I dont think the no to everything approach works either.

[Anonymous]

thats great GC 🙂 good going/.

[Anonymous]

lol. 2 bottles and Im smashed, lol. I stick to one most usually.

some would say we arent fully recovered Joe because we still have a drink. well thats what AA and NA would say anyway.

to that I say, my life is manageable, so whats the problem.