And another.....

[polksaladallie]

Queensland criminologist Paul Wilson appears in Brisbane court on indecent dealing charges

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-03-24/criminologist-paul-wilson-faces-indecent-dealing-charges/53410...

I used to admire his work, but lost respect when he went to the defence of Corby many years ago.

[azureline**]

lucky? or your parents were not so trusting as to allow anyone to place you in that situation?

[polksaladallie]

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@azureline** wrote:

lucky? or your parents were not so trusting as to allow anyone to place you in that situation?

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Lucky, I'd say.  It is not as simple as you seem to believe, Azure

[azureline**]

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@polksaladallie wrote:

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@azureline** wrote:

lucky? or your parents were not so trusting as to allow anyone to place you in that situation?

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Lucky, I'd say.  It is not as simple as you seem to believe, Azure

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As I have previously said, I am closely related to several victims of sexual abuse by relatives, neighbours and a priest. I know where they were and how it occurred. In most cases it was very simple.

[alexander*beetle]

"As I have previously said, I am closely related to several victims of sexual abuse by relatives, neighbours and a priest. I know where they were and how it occurred. In most cases it was very simple."

I am closely related to and know people who fought in the Vietnam war. It doesn't mean for a minute that I understand what they went through no matter how much they have told me.

Calling it "simple" is insulting to victims and their families. It is and always has been far from simple.

[izabsmiling]

Perhaps to fully appreciate that one needs to speak to someone who for X number of years trusted their partner and believed them to be a good,kind and caring person............only to find out years later that during all of those years

that trusted,kind,caring partner of theirs was abusing children ?

If it was simple that wouldn't happen 

[i-need-a-martini]

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@alexander*beetle wrote:

"As I have previously said, I am closely related to several victims of sexual abuse by relatives, neighbours and a priest. I know where they were and how it occurred. In most cases it was very simple."

I am closely related to and know people who fought in the Vietnam war. It doesn't mean for a minute that I understand what they went through no matter how much they have told me.

Calling it "simple" is insulting to victims and their families. It is and always has been far from simple.

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I know two people affected by being accused of sexual abuse.

The first is a good friend who had taken in lots of Barnardos kids. 5 years ago one of the girsl in his care accused him of rape. The allegations were so strong that he was banned from seeing his family for 5 years. He couldn't go anywhere near his foster or his real children while the case was going through the system. He lost his house, his family and his job.  5 years on, the girl is now 21 and has long since discovered (through extensive thereapy) that she confused him with another male and her memory was sparked when another friend accused her foster father of abuse. To say she was confused in an understatement. He is now living with the family again and the young woman also lives with them. I don't know the details but I understand that he was convicted of something minor but did nor serve gaol time. He lost 5 years of his life and will never be the same man again.

The second is one of my closest friends who's wife accused him of innapropriate behaviour with his children whilst they were going through the courts for a custody battle. The allegations were ridiculous but because there was an allegation, he was not allowed to see his children unsupervised for 3 years. During that time she was not allowed to touch them. That included hugging his then 4 year old son. The innapropriate behaviour consisted of innocuous things such as child sitting on dads lap after she came out from bath and dad kissing both children on the lips.

Sometimes it IS simple.

[izabsmiling]

Why do you say that the allegations were ridiculous Martini ?

I misread your post I think..the allegations are at the end ?

[izabsmiling]

I would still encourage (rather than discourage) victims to come forward...

[*pepe]

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@freddie*rooster wrote:

I have pictures of me standing holding this paedophile priest hand, I was dressed in my first holy communion dress and veil. I was one very lucky child.

https://www.google.com.au/?gfe_rd=cr&ei=8Ot2U5vsAsKN8Qf4lYHACA#q=father+denis+mcalinden

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quite frankly you were probably the wrong gender.

I went to a catholic school, I remember our priest moving parish overnight, years later he was charged with sex offences during the time I was at that school.
There was ample opportunity for him to have touched us girls, but it was only the boys who used to return to class crying....

[polksaladallie]

Of course.  For every false allegation, there are thousands which are not.  A child must be believed first, then investigations can sort it out.