Be submissive to your husband.

[nero_bolt]

This should make for an interesting discussion 🙂     Full House star Candace Cameron Bure explains why she chooses to be a submissive wife

CANDACE Cameron Bure has been happily married for 17 years and she's got some controversial advice about how to make it work: be submissive to your husband.

The former Full House star (she played the Tanner household's eldest daughter) is now 37 and has three children with her hockey player husband, Val Bure.

In her new book, Balancing It All, she explains she's a proud "submissive" wife, who gladly leaves the family's big decisions up to her husband.

"I love that my man is a leader," she told the Huffington Post .

The definition that I'm using with submissive is the biblical definition. It's meekness. It is not weakness. It's strength under control. It's bridled strength."

In the book, she says she fell into the role of submissive wife to honour her husband's "take-charge personality".

"I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honouring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything," she writes.

"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work

But the mother-of-three wants readers to understand she's no pushover.

"I allow him to make the final choice," she added in the HuffPo interview. "Obviously I will make my opinion very clear and clearly I have been married for 17 years and we have a very happy marriage and it works very well."

She adds that Val takes her opinions to heart and usually ends up making the decisions she would've made herself.

[izabsmiling]

Men who abuse tend to be traditional in their attitudes in regards to male and female roles. 

[my*2*terrors]

That only works if your husband is of sufficient intelligence and knowledge to make the right decisions and always has the family's interests at heart and not his own. Unfortunately there's a lot of dumb men out there who don't realise they're dumb.  If my mother had allowed my father to be the `boss' in our household (as he wanted to be and strived to be using lots of aggression and bullying) we'd have been even more screwed up than we were and we'd also have ended up broke and destitute.  The man is an idiot and a bully.  Mum had the brains and the earning potential and she ditched him after 35 years as she could no longer put up with his antics. She actually paid him to go away!

My husband is highly intelligent and highly honourable but we still make decisions together.  On some issues he has control simply because I have no opinion on the matter in hand or do not have sufficient knowledge to form an opinion. On others, I do and on some areas it's left completely up to me.  We work to our own individual strengths for the good of the family unit.  We have a pretty harmonious relationship on the whole.

[the_great_she_elephant]

Why on earth should the supposed views of somne who earns her living by pretending to be people she isn't be considered worthy of discussion?

[ca04]

Depends under what traditions you were brought up.

[fiestas*girl]

so refreshing to see Nero start a thread that is not related to politics!!

well done nero

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awwwww are those cavvies on the cover?

[kengillard]

Depends under what traditions you were brought up.....by and by whom?

[grandmoon]

My father alway thought he was in full controll of the family, and he made all the decisions and my mother let him think that and they were  both happy.

[k0llectable5]

Great topic Nero.

I think it comes down to egalitarianism.  The idea that men and women are "equals" is a very contentious topic.  The reason IMO is because they are not equal they are in fact totally different. It's ike apples and oranges.  They are not equal because they are totally different. Two things that are totally different can never equal each other, it's a non sequitur.  I know it's also about equal rights and pay etc. I'm all for that. I just dont think men should act like women nor women like men.  

It's also a problem with feminism I think. For all the greatness feminism bought to the table for women, there are still some dark sides to it that I dont think many people, especially women ever really care to acknowledge.