Be submissive to your husband.

[nero_bolt]

This should make for an interesting discussion 🙂     Full House star Candace Cameron Bure explains why she chooses to be a submissive wife

CANDACE Cameron Bure has been happily married for 17 years and she's got some controversial advice about how to make it work: be submissive to your husband.

The former Full House star (she played the Tanner household's eldest daughter) is now 37 and has three children with her hockey player husband, Val Bure.

In her new book, Balancing It All, she explains she's a proud "submissive" wife, who gladly leaves the family's big decisions up to her husband.

"I love that my man is a leader," she told the Huffington Post .

The definition that I'm using with submissive is the biblical definition. It's meekness. It is not weakness. It's strength under control. It's bridled strength."

In the book, she says she fell into the role of submissive wife to honour her husband's "take-charge personality".

"I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honouring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything," she writes.

"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work

But the mother-of-three wants readers to understand she's no pushover.

"I allow him to make the final choice," she added in the HuffPo interview. "Obviously I will make my opinion very clear and clearly I have been married for 17 years and we have a very happy marriage and it works very well."

She adds that Val takes her opinions to heart and usually ends up making the decisions she would've made herself.

[lurker17260]

Exactly.

(see my cunning non use of the kudo there 😉

[darksideofthemoon]

My OH used to say "She makes all the little decisions and I make the big ones.  Trouble is there are not many big ones to make".

[daydream**believer]

it works for her so whats the big deal.

[freshwater-2]

I agree too, PD....all relationships have their own internal dynamics.

What works for some doesn't work for others.

It ill behoves anyone to lay down a model for happiness and contentment

[izabsmiling]

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@ca04 wrote:

Depends under what traditions you were brought up.

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I agree though it also would depend on what Country's 'current' definition of abuse is I think ?

to me the authors OH sounds like a sooky little boy who needs to be given his own way and/or needs to feel that he has more power than his wife .

someone recently mentioned  that man and women can't be equal because they are different 

equality isn't about being 'identical' ...

[bright.ton42]

I don't see any mention of abuse in the OPs article. 

Yes Meep,  they are cavvies alright, one looks just like my little girl.