Be submissive to your husband.

[nero_bolt]

This should make for an interesting discussion 🙂     Full House star Candace Cameron Bure explains why she chooses to be a submissive wife

CANDACE Cameron Bure has been happily married for 17 years and she's got some controversial advice about how to make it work: be submissive to your husband.

The former Full House star (she played the Tanner household's eldest daughter) is now 37 and has three children with her hockey player husband, Val Bure.

In her new book, Balancing It All, she explains she's a proud "submissive" wife, who gladly leaves the family's big decisions up to her husband.

"I love that my man is a leader," she told the Huffington Post .

The definition that I'm using with submissive is the biblical definition. It's meekness. It is not weakness. It's strength under control. It's bridled strength."

In the book, she says she fell into the role of submissive wife to honour her husband's "take-charge personality".

"I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honouring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything," she writes.

"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work

But the mother-of-three wants readers to understand she's no pushover.

"I allow him to make the final choice," she added in the HuffPo interview. "Obviously I will make my opinion very clear and clearly I have been married for 17 years and we have a very happy marriage and it works very well."

She adds that Val takes her opinions to heart and usually ends up making the decisions she would've made herself.

[acacia_pycnantha]

Candace Cameron Bure seems to be the archetypal Stepford Wife.

Really depressing that  anyone could take her seriously.

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

Acacia how do you manage to type whilst rubbing kenn's feet and openeing her beer?

[acacia_pycnantha]

She gives me time off for good behaviour now and again. 😉

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

I thought you may have become adept at multi tasking

[acacia_pycnantha]

Well yes, that too.

It's ok, I can hear if she rings her bell from here.

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

I actually know a few couples where this kind of relationship works very well for them. The key is that both members of the couple need to have respect for each other. I guess it comes down to the work you put into the relationship. In a good marriage you both have the same or similar ideals, beliefs and goals. This kind of marriage isn't meeting hubby at the door with his newspaper and a cold beer as he walks in the door from work and the wife has dinner on the stove, perfect lipstick and has just spent an hour primping and preening before hubby comes home.

It basically holds that both opinions are heard and discussed and the husband makes the final decision for the betterment of the home and family. I can't think of anything that myself and my husband wouldn't come to the same decision on....apart from him wanting to spoil the kids. And no, we don't have the above kind of marriage. We discuss everything and make decisions together. Sometimes his initial idea is what we agree on, sometimes it is mine...but either way, the final decision is one we agree on after discussion.

[punch*drunk]

I think its a personality thing. Some people are naturally more dominant and some more submissive. As long as there's respect theres no reason why it wouldnt work regardless of which gender is the more submissive personality. Its when its taken to extremes and turns to abuse that there's a problem.

[lurker17260]

I agree punch.
The problem I see is that she seems to be holding up what apparently works in her relationship as a model for others to follow. Smacks of arrogance to me (and the desire to make a few bucks from what she knows will be a controversial subject)

[punch*drunk]

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@lurker17260 wrote:
I agree punch.
The problem I see is that she seems to be holding up what apparently works in her relationship as a model for others to follow. Smacks of arrogance to me (and the desire to make a few bucks from what she knows will be a controversial subject)

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Maybe thats a big problem with marriages today, too many "models" to follow, too many people telling us how marriages should be and couples trying to fit into something that they are told is right but maybe doesnt suit them. If people are happy and respect each other, that should be enough. they shouldnt have to mold to what anothers idea of a perfect relationship is.