Bonding With Baby

[*crikey*mate*]

Back in the days when Moses was born, mothers gave birth and then the newborn was taken to the nursery to stay. (in most cases). Family and partners etc got to peek through a glass window when they came to visit. I'm not sure though if the mum got to be with the baby 24/7 or not, but it is my understanding they only saw the baby at feeding and changing time. (happy to be corrected if I am wrong)

Now fast forward to now, where it is deemed absolutely imperative that a mother "bond" with her newborn in the first few days/weeks following birth. In most cases,  Mum and baby stay in the same room 24/7 kind of thing.

So now I'm wondering of this new generation of babies who have had the benefit of this bonding are any better emotionally than those from a bygone era? Are they more stable as adults than previous generations? Were kids from "back then" loved any less than their modern counterparts?

How exactly do the different generations compare considering the different ideologies in their birth and "bonding" experiences in those first few weeks of life?

[i-need-a-martini]

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@my*mum wrote:

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@my*mum wrote:

So now I'm wondering of this new generation of babies who have had the benefit of this bonding are any better emotionally than those from a bygone era? Are they more stable as adults than previous generations? Were kids from "back then" loved any less than their modern counterparts?

How exactly do the different generations compare considering the different ideologies in their birth and "bonding" experiences in those first few weeks of life?

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I think absolutely that parents and children have a very different bond these days than they did 1000, 100 or even 30 years ago.

[*crikey*mate*]

Ok, a different bond, but is it a better bond? If so, in what ways is it better?

[poddster]

In what difinitive way

[kennedia_nigricans]

i did not say that you have to throw the baby away it it is not possible to connect it with the mother immediately.

it would never have accured to me to throw a baby away. shame on you, what sort of person are you?

don't be so defensive i am not attacking you.

i said (as above) that it is important. so if POSSIBLE give the baby to the mum as soon as possible. if it is not possible, then do it as soon as possible, but it is better do do it as soon as possible, not take the baby away for weighing or other unimportant stuff rather than giving it to the mother for the initial bonding.

of course it is important what happens in the months/years afterwards, i merely tryed to point out that the first few seconds are important.

[poddster]

in what way?

[*elizabeths-mum*]

I didn't say that you did, Kennedia. Even if you had not posted, I would have written what I did. My comment comes from working with women suffering pnd who attach to anything that underlines that they are failures as mothers before they have even had a chance to get started.

[nevynreally]

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@kennedia_nigricans wrote:

i said (as above) that it is important. so if POSSIBLE give the baby to the mum as soon as possible. if it is not possible, then do it as soon as possible, but it is better do do it as soon as possible, not take the baby away for weighing or other unimportant stuff rather than giving it to the mother for the initial bonding.

of course it is important what happens in the months/years afterwards, i merely tryed to point out that the first few seconds are important.

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The first few seconds? The newborn doesn't care, the mother is usually feeling relieved it's finally out. So over political correctness. Some mothers take longer to bond with their babies than others do. Has nothing to do with how soon they spend time together, or how long.

[i-need-a-martini]

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@my*mum wrote:

Ok, a different bond, but is it a better bond? If so, in what ways is it better?

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I suppose I am thinking about it in terms of a book I read recently about birth and motherhood in the 1950's. The book had quite a few recollections from women who felt they mothered from a distance in the age of routine and bottlefeeding and discipline.

And there is much wriiten about the lack of bond between child & parents 100 plus years ago

I dunno really.

[kennedia_nigricans]

you are wrong. i can't be bothered to google it for you but it was known more than  5 years ago that it DOES matter (the first few seconds).

[poddster]

who is saying that and on what authority?