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[cat_mioux]

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[thebraff]

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[rosymog]

just catching up miss kitty

wow, l mean wow
so many insightful wonderful posts here

some also very funny ones too
and pics *thanks carol and puddles*

just really wow on some of the posts

be kind to yourself kitty, you are really doing well considering what is going on and him still being there.

Keep holding your head up, keep chanting and know that the hurt will pass and a new redefined you will emerge, with a new purpose and path to follow, this l truly believe.

Keep your distance, sadly l think someone is in for a big world of hurt down the track, how you handle 'the now part' before he leaves will l also think how he handles 'the truth' of how he really and l mean really stuffed up bigtime, he wont admit it now, but he will later on, but by then you will feel different as to how you do now, not by bitterness either, by working on yourself and moving forward along your new path.

blessings for you, be well and ring the bells, *have no idea why l said that last bit about the bells, do you have bells? near you?

[cat_mioux]

Keep holding your head up, keep chanting and know that the hurt will pass and a new redefined you will emerge, with a new purpose and path to follow, this l truly believe.

Keep your distance, sadly l think someone is in for a big world of hurt down the track, how you handle 'the now part' before he leaves will l also think how he handles 'the truth' of how he really and l mean really stuffed up bigtime, he wont admit it now, but he will later on, but by then you will feel different as to how you do now, not by bitterness either, by working on yourself and moving forward along your new path.

blessings for you, be well and ring the bells, *have no idea why l said that last bit about the bells, do you have bells? near you?

I ring a 'bell' every time I chant - a Tibetan bowl. I've been 'dinging' the bowl crisply to hear the sound resonate throughout the house to infuse my environment with Buddha Nature.

I totally agree with your second last paragraph. It is very sad. But I can't get through to him. 😞

[kokomobua]

Ms. Mioux,

Have you tried writing him a letter, rather than talking to him?

Sometimes the written word is easier to digest, than the spoken one.

[rosymog]

l wouldn't write a letter, not just yet anyways

to me, it feels like he needs to go, you need to go
different paths and all that , as sad as that is
you are seeing another side to him, its not one you like either ,painful as that is to say and think l am sure.

l don't think its up to you to get through to him miss kitty, he knows what you are saying but he doesn't want to 'hear' it, especially from you. In time as l say
he will be sorry etc, but thats not foryou to 'think' about just now, thats his path to follow.

ahh as for the bowl, l pictured brass bell or little bells on a string? at least l know why bell popped in my head then. well its good to know that it works, the bell ringing clensing and opening,clearing channels,
perhaps thisis why you are being heard 'from above'
as they say.

good stuff, sleep well, blessings and a peaceful sleep await you. mogs xx

[not.happy.jan]

Catty, don't worry about sleeping alone. I have/had a queen size bed and admittedly the first few nights were hard. My ex and his skank moved into a house down the bottom of my street. 😮

But ya gotta weigh up the pros and cons.

No snoring
No pinching of doonas
No "dutch ovens" :^O
No cold feet
No having to go to bed when they do, etc. etc.

I found the purrfect solution.

My furbabies all sleep with me now. They all have their own spots on the bed together with a rather large dog. :^O The ecstasy of spreading yourself from one side of the bed to the other and not have to worry about anyone else. ('cept furbabies who get crabby when you move too much). 😄

I have said to people who ask why I don't have a man in my life, "I simply couldn't, there's absolutely no room in the bed for anyone else".

I also had a thought in case he wants to stuff around with the dates. Tell him the room is taken from the 19th. Then get your daughter to move her stuff in then. That way you will feel comfortable that you are telling the truth. He doesn't have to know it's boxes. The room is taken. Full Stop. :-x

You will get there Catty. One day at a time and when it gets hard, bring it down to an hour at a time. It really works.

Hang in there lovely.

[puddleback]

Dear Miss Kitty....Lots of wise words here but I just want to add a word of caution....you have to prepare yourself for the fact that his life may not go down the toilet after he leaves....

He may never come crawling back to you so don't visualise that day in your head. Put all your energy into making your future the best it can be...

Hanging on to bitter thoughts for too long is soul destroying. He has destroyed your yesterdays and today...don't let him spoil your tomorrows:-x

Take the chance to make a clean break...shut the door on him and focus on yourself.

[keeliaclare]

A very late "Good Evening" to you Ms Mioux.


Sending you lots of love and hugs as always ♥

You're doing great 🙂

[cat_mioux]

Dear Miss Kitty....Lots of wise words here but I just want to add a word of caution....you have to prepare yourself for the fact that his life may not go down the toilet after he leaves....

He may never come crawling back to you so don't visualise that day in your head. Put all your energy into making your future the best it can be...

Hanging on to bitter thoughts for too long is soul destroying. He has destroyed your yesterdays and today...don't let him spoil your tomorrows:-x

Take the chance to make a clean break...shut the door on him and focus on yourself.

I know Puddles. I often ask myself how would I feel if his life turned out fantastic. Honestly I'd be really peeved, which is not very Buddhist.

Actually, no. I'd be happy for him if he got his life back on track but only if he finally realised what hurt and pain he had put me through and was truly sorry. Then he can move on with his life 😉

But you are right. I need to focus all my energy on making my future the best it can possibly be. I will learn to let him go eventually.

nothappyjan - hey that's an idea! I can have my furbabies sleep with me! I don't think he'll stuff around with dates. He'll be finished with work and he'll need to go to find a new job ASAP because he has loans to pay off. And it will be official once he signs the lease over in my name. He can't live here rent free and he knows that.

It's 2:30am here and I've just finished an hours chanting.

sleep well koko, mogs, nothappyjan, puddles and keelia :-x