Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[Anonymous]

as we do lol:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

He has the means to sell it privately and he will get 12 grand. I don't doubt his ability to fall on his feet time and time again. Who cares what he gets. My concern is that Number 1 gets out of his clutches and stands on her own two feet. She can learn a valuable lesson here. All he gets is the loss of her respect. That would devastate me, but he doesn't seem to see it coming nor be bothered by it.

[judyfidella]

Cyn, it looks like your ex is about to score an "own goal". It's amazing how they do that, a lot of them.
And I agree with you, if it had strings she's better off without it. She may well be more careful and have more pride in a car she gets by her own efforts.

[Anonymous]

hi judy ..you put things so well :-x

[judyfidella]

hi judy ..you put things so well :-x

Thanks! but I have two exes, and so have had a lot of practice at biting my tongue and saying nowt, while thinking unprintable thoughts.
I must have restrained myself too much, it can be bad when i let go.

[b3llag1na]

Cyn, IMHO your daughter would be far better off if SHE GAVE the car back to your ex, and went and found something of her own. For $10k I'm sure she would find that there are thousands of cars available- she might well pick up something even nicer 🙂

As judy pointed out, she is far more likely to look after her own pride and joy - and it will be HERS! No sharing with the other siblings 😉

[judyfidella]

I cannot stand people who give tied gifts. Why so many men think it's a good idea I cannot think.
I think they got used to being in charge of the purse-strings and enjoyed the power it gave them 😐

[rosieglen]

My ex SIL is exactly like that - all the kids are well aware of what he is like - you cant buy class or integrity and he has neither.

Have not been in for ages but have been keeping up to date - such a great thread of supportive women.:-x

[primaryaim]

I have alwasy felt some of these men do these things because they are 'control freaks' and they usually need to be in control because their own lives leave a lot to be desired, i.e, they are cheating. etc.

It is not just about money. It is who their wives interact with, what they wear, etc. They manipulate interaction with family and friends, get jealous of pets (it happens) and eventually drive everyone away leaving them in full control of their partner.

The giving of gifts with strings is purely about control.

There is a book "Toxic Parents". Good for a read.

Cat, I hope you are ok.

[thebraff]

A friend of mine's ex told his daughter he had won a cruise for 2 to New York and would she like to go with him. He needed to borrow some money from her first to do something toward the trip. I am not sure what it was. Then he needed some more and more. The daughter kept giving it because the reason was plausible.
You guessed it. He took her money and she never went on the cruise. She was crushed. She was only about 16 or 17 at the time and her savings had been birthday, Christmas money and a part time job. My friend didn't know about any of the money being given until much later.
She has since saved and saved and just a few months ago went to New York with some friends and saw Lady GaGa.

Cyn, I am so sorry Mr SIN is doing this to your/his children.

Chuk *hugs* to you.

Ms Cat, how are you going? :-x