Good question toon.
I have a few different responses.
I have practiced forgiveness in the past. That helped me move forward. It's a way of coming to peace with the anger.
When I'm chanting lots and coming from a Buddhist perspective I realise anger can be a positive emotion too if it's used constructively rather than destructively. Using anger in a positive way as examples can be just living the best life possible so you can stick it up the person that hurt you. Or using it to learn from your mistakes, using it to advocate for the rights of all people ... and it can mean taking responsibility for the causes we made to attract the person or situation in our lives and changing that part of ourselves.
A meditation that is very useful is to imagine the person surrounded by light and joy and telling them in your mind you are letting them go.
Or, and I do this a lot and trying not too, is eating lots to stuff my emotions down! Not good in the long term. :^O
Don't be afraid of anger. We are human and anger is part of being human. It has two sides and there is a way to turn poison anger into "medicine" anger i.e to do no harm to ourselves and others but to use it to heal.
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Thankyou. Usually it is a positive emotion, I can get focused on something else, usually something productive like cleaning.
The person is family. I went no contact and the relief was amazing. I had a great few months but unfortunately have been in sporadic contact for 6 months and feel an unbelievable rage afterwards. Being straight and saying outright "no contact. ever again" would create a worse situation.
I will tell them in my mind I'm letting them go. Thankyou.
ps I don't eat, I smoke. Just as bad.
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