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[cat_mioux]

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[cat_mioux]

Thanks matega, she is my best friend and has been since we were 12.

I feel better now, just very weak from lack of food! Still no appetite. But there may be a silver lining. I bet I've lost some weight. Yay! :^O

[jack*in*a*box]

Oh no Cat...not good being sick on your holiday. I'm glad your friend was there with you.

Yeah, mum only moved in with Mr.b six months before. It's not even a lot of money but since he has already taken a sum of money from her account while she was dying (stolen it), he gets no more from me. If he decides to take me to court than I will counter sue for the money he stole. I'm trying not to think about it anymore as I am sure I have made the right decision and mum would be proud of me. Just waiting to see whether he will go down that avenue or not.

I hope you are settled into the accomodation Freddie and tomorrow goes really well. Thinking of you both.

Kylie...Samantha is just the cutest  

[mainecoon1]

Cat sorry to hear you did not have the best of weekends but it is good to see you still have your sense of humour and are feeling better.

Good luck for tomorrow Freddie and Mr Freddie.

Hugs to all

[debra9275]

he everyone,

Kylie I've read a little of what's happening in your life, so sorry to hear it.

I've been thinking today of Mr & Mrs Freddie, & I hope all is going well ♥

[my2cuddlycats_not]

Higs and Hugs and special thoughts for everybody. XXX

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

Of course I don't know you from a bar of soap and this is absolutely, completely and totally none of my business, but just wondering if you had thought about marriage counselling?

Hi Kylie and others

If there are substance abuse/alcohol problems, which Kylie has said in this thread that there were, then marriage counselling is a waste of time. It's not the marriage that's the main problem.

[kyliecrv]

Kylie, I am a ocassional lurker and very ocassional poster on this thread (you may know me originally as Koko), and am so saddened to read of your troubles.

Of course I don't know you from a bar of soap and this is absolutely, completely and totally none of my business, but just wondering if you had thought about marriage counselling? 

I just made the suggestion, because it makes me so sad to think that you've just had that beautiful baby and now your marriage is breaking up.

It sounds like hubby really does want to try and make amends and keep the relationship together but obviously just doesn't have a single clue about your real needs and wants.  Marriage counselling gives both sides a chance to get all the hurt and anger out in the open and to try to understand the other's point of view.

It may make a difference, it may not, but at least you would have explored all the possibilities? 

Feel free to completely ignore me and my suggestion, as I said I have no business even commenting really, but just feel so sad about your situation.

Best of luck with whatever you decide is right for you and that gorgeous wee girl (and your older children, who also sound like real sweeties).

[kyliecrv]

Grrrrr stoooopid iPad! Keeps spoofing up my relies!,

will rewrite in quicker version...

koko, thanks for your thoughts, I really do read and consider others opinions and experiences and in this case we have already exhausted the marriage counselling avenue.

he knows what to say to them and me, I have been burnt many times now, as soon as I relent and forgive etc, he gets comfortable and slides back into his regular old routines.... Time and time again, I have honestly given sooo many chances to 'try again' he is exhausting! I feel like he's an extra child for me to raise.

over 7 years we have been very 'on & off' and moved out 4 times, I just don't want Samantha growing up with that kind of life.

i don't want my teen son to think that men act like this towards their partners, and I don't want my teen daughter to think that women have no options / choices etc.

of course I wish things could be different as we have a baby, but there is an alcohol issue also

[kyliecrv]

Omg..... Still half my post missing!!!

the weekend was a roller coaster, but I think his eyes are really opening to this reality and even though he is a terrible husband (IMO), he has been really good with the baby lately..... After nearly 9 months, guess better late than never, I need to know I can trust him with her.

[rose*petals]

Hello to everyone.

Kylie - just sending you some hugs.

Having met you, I know what a sensible & caring person you are and also know you have given your OH many chances.  Good luck for a calm separation and look after yourself.