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[cat_mioux]

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[freddie*rooster]

Thanks cuddly :-x:-x:-x

[the_great_she_elephant]

(((HUGS))) Freddie.:-x

[cat_mioux]

Freddie!

I'm so happy the team at St Vincent's looked after you and Mr Freddie. It's so important to have the utmost confidence and you can face this with trust in the medical team. Yay!

It sounds complicated but if they have assured Mr Freddie he'll keep his good looks then all is well 😉 😄 :-x

Lots of squishy hugs to you both.

[fiestas*girl]

Gee Kylie, how did he manage to keep his drinking a secret from you til after the wedding?

Actually I commend this man for fighting to try and keep his marriage together. It seems to me that you are angry with him because he just wont walk away quietly and make it easy for you.

I know you wont like my comment but hey..we are all entitled. I am not saying you should or shouldnt separate, but be clear and authentic with valid reasons, not excuses.

From what I can see, this man is trying very hard in his way to keep it together AND compete with your former husband and the expectations you have on him on how a husband should be. It must be hard for him to know what a great husband your first husband was and know that he wouldnt ever regarded like that

BTW always watch this thread but rarely comment as there is no need, plenty of people here giving support and advice...

[jack*in*a*box]

((Freddie and Mr. Freddie))

It's fantastic that you and your man have been reassured about the surgery. It's sounds like a big surgery. There are some really caring specialists out there.. Are you home yet? Look after each other and keep well. We are all with you :-x

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

Morning all you wise ones:-)  

hi cj:-xhow was your date?Hoping you can share the deets!!]:) Love the sound of your collage- being creative with memories is wonderful..like an offering to your mum- iykwim

(((freddie))) and (((mr freddie))) I was glad to read you had such support from the staff at st vincents-they are special people. Am sending you peace of mind, calmness and restful thoughts to prepare you both for the next trip.

I sometimes find trying to get your mind of things is v difficult-monkey mind and all that- but they say that laughter is the best medicine..endorphins etc..I was looking on utube at the complication of epic fails..for some reason, people falling over and laughing their heads off is v funny..(I cant post the link sorry) and I understand if this is not what you need right now..

kylie:-xthinking of you and your family, hope today there is some realisation on his part..his game playing must be exhausting for everyone.Hang in there..

keep up that chanting ms Cat:-x pmsl imagining a kitty juggling balls wearing a bunny suit:^O

higs and hugs to all who visit...I am in the studio today..hope everyone has a good day

you can do it you can do it you can do it

[kyliecrv]

Gee Kylie, how did he manage to keep his drinking a secret from you til after the wedding?

He was always a drinker, but over the past few years it has increased to where it interferes in his daily functions.... ie getting shakes and dropping breaking many things around the house. Not to mention that it was not helping with all his griping that he was so horendously tired alll the time. Then he cant drive anywhere at night cos he's 'over the limit'.

I dont mind if a person "drinks" but when it becomes a problem and he must drink every day, that concerns me.

I dont want my teenagers to think that this is 'acceptable' alcohol consumption- well it may be ok for some people, we are all diff in our tollerance levels.

Actually I commend this man for fighting to try and keep his marriage together. It seems to me that you are angry with him because he just wont walk away quietly and make it easy for you.

I am angry, you are right, only because we have tried and tried and tired, this whole marriage is just so trying!!!

WHy cant I find my happiness? We all have that right in life dont we?

I too commend his determination, but honestly he ONLY acts this ott with being so 'good' when he knows his butt is on the line, I guess when you sleep on the lounge its a constant reminder.

At what point can we call it quits? ANd why does both parties have to agree to split up?

I know you wont like my comment but hey..we are all entitled. I am not saying you should or shouldnt separate, but be clear and authentic with valid reasons, not excuses.

I can see where your comments are coming from, and i always read with interest, its out here on a public forum, I cant sook if everyone doesnt see my point of view!

The thing is, it IS a constant up & down, and I always get manipulated back and find that "pity" not "love" is the reason for my decisions to stay every other time, but then I get resentful as the second things get comfy again, he is back to his normal ways! Its so disappointing.

I dont come here and spill out each & every trial and tribulation, Ive put it here now, in the hope that I can free myself from being emotionally manipulated and feel the freedom to enjoy my own life for once. Ive seen first hand that life is short, and you never know how long you are here for, I want my time on this planet to be happy!

From what I can see, this man is trying very hard in his way to keep it together AND compete with your former husband and the expectations you have on him on how a husband should be. It must be hard for him to know what a great husband your first husband was and know that he wouldnt ever regarded like that

You are right, and I know that that must be frustrating, but when he met me I was a widow with 2 kids, no secret, I was happily married to my teenage boyfriend and had a great life, it's common knowledge to all who know me.

Im sure he does feel like he will never match up, but you know what...... HE CANT!

Ive never said it, but I can see how he'd see/feel it, all I can say is How is this my fault? Im not going to B*S him and lie to him that he's a wonderful husband/father.... cos he's not, so I dont say anything, his eyes were open when he met me...

I guess instead of responsibility, he saw a confident woman, who was quite well off (that he'd never really need to support me or my kids), and believe me he has lead a VERY comfortable life with many benefits, this I feel is what he cant let go of, he lead a very bad life before. WIth no family or friend support, and very poor. Dreadful childhood etc, but it isnt MY job to give him a good life. We are not partners, I am his "dream mother" as I am expected to bring him up & teach him etc. Im very tired, even more so now that I actually have had a baby at my age. Ive simply had enough of that life. 😞

[jack*in*a*box]

Thanks youcan. I've been on three real dates now with the same man. And I've had him to mine for dinner. It's really nice to have someone for Company, a chat and yes, a cuddle. Not sure yet if he is the ONE but I'm enjoying myself. So far so good! 

[fiestas*girl]

thanks for your reply Kylie..

[thebraff]

Freddie and Mr Freddie, the news seems very positive for you which is wonderful to hear.

All the best for successful continued treatment.

MsJacks, how wonderful that you have met someone that you feel comfortable with.  Enjoy your special dates.  You deserve some happiness.

YCDI have a nice time in your studio.  It sounds like it is a nice escape for you, even if it is work.

MsCat, I hope you are feeling a lot better and that your chanting is going well.

She ele  - hi there.

Kylie, great answers.  Continued strength being sent your way.

To all who come here....higs and hugs to you all.

MIA - get your butt back here.