Here comes a randon rant. Cat I admired your strength when you went through you seperation so have come here for some strength of my own. Hubby and I are at a crossroads atm and I am fearful of what is to come. He is so ignorant towards my feelings it is unbelievable. he appears so uncaring and I wonder at all if he cares or if it is his own way of copeing. anyway sorry for the whinge But if really feels better.
sorry to hear about your situation 😞
you are best to take hubby out of his comfort zone and have a serious talk about your future.... Tell him how you feel about the current state of your relationship, and ask him where his head is at?
its a scarey thing to start the ball rolling and only do it when you feel strong enough to hear the answer (incase it isn't good)
if there are kids involved you need to think about what you need to do for their well-being.
maybe it's just a stage, (mid life crisis?) and he will come through this for your marriage to continue happily.
post here anytime, it does help!!
ive posted at times not to get advice/suggestions just to see it in front of me and empty all the rambling concerns that keep you up at night!
goodluck, please come back and let us know you're ok? 🙂
My update:
last Sat night I got a text that he stil,l loves me and wishes he could go back and fix this mess...
I didn't respond.
The same message got emailed o me next morn with a bit more added.
I didn't respond.
Sunday he came and overstayed (as he does on weekends), so I had to let him know that once the baby is down for sleep he should leave and he got all angry yelling that I just wanna see guys, a I'm sick and I've got problems and need to get myself seen to.
much later that night an email came with title "decided"
it said "I have decided I don't want you back. We will be friends"
next day comes over and gives me the silent treatment with the cranky glares! Been a bit narky all week only slightly better today.
Kylie. He really is a PITA isn't he. I think you have to bite the bullet and make a sensible timetable for when he can visit. Popping in whenever he feels like it and staying as long as He wants to is just not on.
Tonight Im wild angry!
instead of interacting with his daughter today he was sitting in my loungeroom on facebook!
i only asked him the other day if he had fb and he'd said no.
i checked out his page, all women friends (great for the sympathy) , AND he had added a 20 y/o girl on Xmas eve while iThe was staying over here!!
And my special photos that I share with him when he texts me that he's feeling down are now out there in the cyber world.... I will never make that mistake again!
When I think of how many times I felt bad for him and guilty.... Omg! I'm livid!
Just quickly passing through at the moment but came online to let Freddie know that the OK's are sitting firmly on the butt and thinking of you and MrFreddie today but special hig and hug to you.
Kylie, time to change the locks and set an arranged time for visitation.
