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[cat_mioux]

:^O

[toon_town_nutter]

That'd be projection Kylie. If it's him you need to realise somebody is now whispering rot in his ear, I don't think he'd be capable of thinking that up on his own. Soldier on. 

[kyliecrv]

Thanks again lovely okers....

I know that what he says isnt true, and i put up the strong front so he really doesnt see it affects me, but still... you know...  *sigh*  There's just sooo much of it, true colours are really showing these days!!

Last time I was a controlling biarch and its ALWAYS after he doesnt get his own way with a situation, Ive had to draw a line and say NO... he reacts, honestly it's like dealing with a child!!!

And Ive noticed the pattern too that always the threats of "Im taking her" come out after he is angry with me, so obviously I feel more protective that that is not the right curcumstances for solo visits.

[kyliecrv]

Isnt it funny that "love is blind"...

I can look at the person now, who I believed I loved and find it hard to find anything at all that is remotely appealing!!

So much so that I wonder how anyone else in the world could possible want them!! LoL (Weird I know! Cos that would actually help me if they had a distraction of a new love interest!!)

Hmmm... well just my little unload for the day!!!

[cat_mioux]

It's the old 'love is blind' Kylie. :^O

It's my birthday this weekend. I wasn't going to organise anything then on a whim decided yesterday to get on the phone and invite a whole bunch of people over for a party at my house. Hmmm I have a very small house. So far I've managed to rustle up 9 seats (3 on the sofa and 6 chairs including the outdoor chairs. I think some people may need to stand  :^O

Higs and hugs :-x

[the_great_she_elephant]

And Ive noticed the pattern too that always the threats of "Im taking her" come out after he is angry with me, so obviously I feel more protective that that is not the right curcumstances for solo visits.

Kylie, I'm not sure I'm reading this right, but are you saying he is still not spending time with Sammi without you being  there to supervise? And if so, does that mean some of his visits are still taking place in your house?

[kyliecrv]

And Ive noticed the pattern too that always the threats of "Im taking her" come out after he is angry with me, so obviously I feel more protective that that is not the right curcumstances for solo visits.

Kylie, I'm not sure I'm reading this right, but are you saying he is still not spending time with Sammi without you being  there to supervise? And if so, does that mean some of his visits are still taking place in your house?

i meet him at a park or indoor play land for his weekend visits and on the alternate I meet him at the swim centre for his turn for her lesson, so yes it is supervised but often  with me at a distance (except when he wants to eat or she has a dirty nappy then he hands her over for a Small amount of time. ) 😐

The only way a weekday visit is possible right now is that he comes midweek to my house to see her, mainly due to the Winter weather (but also due to our work hours) but I'm hoping to drop this (ive brought it up at mediation)

monday was a tanty from him as he wanted to come to my house and I said no. He drove over anyway and phoned & text harassing me etc and I didn't give in so all hell broke loose!

He's been acting inappropriately again lately and I just didnt want to see him, plus I had plans and it wasn't his agreed date for a visit So why should I change my plans?

I am working towards no time spent in my home at all but he is very much resisting!!

[the_great_she_elephant]

i meet him at a park or indoor play land for his weekend visits and on the alternate I meet him at the swim centre for his turn for her lesson, so yes it is supervised but often  with me at a distance (except when he wants to eat or she has a dirty nappy then he hands her over for a Small amount of time. ) 😐

The only way a weekday visit is possible right now is that he comes midweek to my house to see her, mainly due to the Winter weather (but also due to our work hours) but I'm hoping to drop this (ive brought it up at mediation)

monday was a tanty from him as he wanted to come to my house and I said no. He drove over anyway and phoned & text harassing me etc and I didn't give in so all hell broke loose!

He's been acting inappropriately again lately and I just didnt want to see him, plus I had plans and it wasn't his agreed date for a visit So why should I change my plans?

I am working towards no time spent in my home at all but he is very much resisting!!

Have these arrangements been discussed in mediation and are there any formal arrangements in place yet? I can understand how stressful this is for you, but as long as it is an ad hoc arrangement and your ex sees it as being entirely at your discretion I can also understand him being angry.

From his point of view, he is as much Sammi's parent as you are and his time with her is not a privilege which he has to earn but a right that only gross misconduct should nullify.

Please don't take this in any way as a criticism of you - I can understand absolutely where you are coming from and obviously I am not privy to everything that has happened, but as an outsider I can also understand where your ex is coming from and how he might be feeling..

[kyliecrv]

She el- these are temp arrangements that we both agreed to follow until we sort officially. Mediation has started but its a long process.

i wish it was about the child but it really isn't, I am not allowed to go out and have a life, there is too much watching of my movements and texting asking for "things".... 

Theres been a lot going on 😞

[cat_mioux]

((kylie)) :-x

Higs and hugs and 0/ to all and I hope everyone is doing well, recovering, healing, feeling more hopeful, having fun and wearing their OK's if their not.

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

:-x

Afternoon to all you wise ones!

just a quick fly through to wish ms Cat a happy birthday ( if it IS today?) or have a lovely day tomorrow!!  Hope you enjoy your party, and theres dancing for those who dont have a place to sit!!

higs and hugs to all, hope everyone is feeling well..keep your chins up, you dont know what tomorrow may bring...(PS this is advice I am taking myself )

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