I don't get it.....what's with these guys
I have no idea keeli, they just morph into these things that are unrecognisable. I don't mourn for the ar..se that my hubby turned into, I mourn for the loving, caring, attentive husband and father that he once was. To this day I have no idea what happened in our marriage to make him want to leave. He just wasn't happy.
We had 3 kids, teenagers, so the light was visible at the end of the tunnel. He was captain of the local fire brigade. We had a successful business that we ran together. I also had another good job that fitted in perfectly with our family life. We'd just bought a caravan and had begun to take family holidays and go 4WDing. We'd sold the home we owned and went into debt again to build our dream home that we planned together.
The three months after moving in he decided it wasn't what he wanted. He had an affair with his mates, a fellow fire brigade members wife and left me/us for her. Not sure what happened there. They both vowed and declared to me that what ever happened between them was none of my business and in her words, if that's something that happens in the future (that they get together), then that's something you'll have to deal with."Then in the midst of all that I find out there's another one in the wings. When I went to her house and confronted her I was told to f off as I was a who......re!!!!!!'' and had the door slammed in my face.
I don't know what's with these men and I don't know what's with these women. All I know is that they are self centred, have no shame and no morals. They have a blatant disregard for everyone else's feelings and emotions. How someone can just step into another persons life and take over as if it's always been that way astounds me, but in my case that's exactly what's happened. Number 2 is now the book keeper in my business. My ex moved in with her and her 3 kids. They have bought another camper trailer, Landcruiser AND a new boat. Recently they purchased a block of land and will soon be building their own new home.
For child support purposes ex earns $500 a week and therefor escapes with paying a pittance for child support. He has managed to keep in favour with his kids however as he has bought back their love. New phones, lap tops, even got number 1 child a car. HOWEVER there are strings attached and if they don't do what he wants, when he wants they are threatened with the privileges being taken back off them and he lords over them with I have given you this and that "all the time. But hey, that's the kids choice and they have to live with the consequences. My girls speak of their father with much disrespect......until they want something....then they know they just have to call daddy and he comes running lavishing finances on them. Then once they are suitably p'd off they come running back to me bitching and moaning about it all. It's very frustrating and I've boiled over on many occasions at the kids becasue of it, but at the end of they day they are 15, 16 and 20 and it's their choice. I try hard not to make it my consequences, but it's hard. Some days I feel like I'm biting my tongue so hard it's going to fall right off.
I don't mourn for that lump, she can have him and he her. They deserve each other.
