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[cat_mioux]

:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

Have to disagree cat, I don't think there is any shame or guilt there. Not one iota. That's the saddest thing in all of this. How could one possibly live with oneself if there was?


Well I do know the answer to that actually. Lies. They tell lies. They lie so much they must begin to believe the guff they sprout and eventually the lies overshadow the turth and even they start to believe it. How else do they do it? I don't know.

[rose*petals]

You can imagine the turmoil in my daughter-in-law's family when her father left her mum for her uncles wife (her mum's brother). They denied it at first but are now married. My dil's aunt became her step mother, her cousins became her step siblings, and because of the connection, they are still very much involved in family ocassions. The grandmother hates him because he wrecked not only her daughter's life but also her son's whose wife he is now with and finds it hard to be in the same room as him.

First time I've posted Cat but admire your outlook and know you will come through this with integrity and be the better person. Good luck.

[green.fields]

I don't get it.....what's with these guys

Not just the men I'm afraid, there are women doing it to men as is the case with a family member of mine (22 yrs married). 2 year affair with a man old enough to be her father. She has finally, finally gone, there is no coming back, my family member has also decided he could either drown in the sadness and sorrow of it all or pick himself up, dust himself off and try to get on with life so he is picking himself up, not easy but he has 2 teenage daughters at home so life must go on.

Cat I don't post much but am following your journey, sometimes days after the posts though. You are getting there, stay strong and breathe breathe breathe.

[cat_mioux]

Have to disagree cat, I don't think there is any shame or guilt there. Not one iota. That's the saddest thing in all of this. How could one possibly live with oneself if there was?


Well I do know the answer to that actually. Lies. They tell lies. They lie so much they must begin to believe the guff they sprout and eventually the lies overshadow the turth and even they start to believe it. How else do they do it? I don't know.

cyn, if they didn't have any feelings of guilt and shame, they'd be psychopaths. Those feelings are there but as you said "they lie so much to themselves and others that start to believe it". That's how they function - living in Liar Land. They delude themselves into thinking 'they' are different. "Their love" is real. So they 'cheated and lied'? "But they are Soul Mate Schmoopies so that makes it all okay."

The problem with guilt & shame is that it festers away inside. And it has to come out eventually. It may manifest as illness. It may manifest as depression , addiction, anger, violence, making bad choices, karmic lessons, loneliness ...

And if not this life - then the next life. Because the purpose of life is Absolute happiness you can not be happy if you are a liar and a cheater. Therefore you must experience karma to learn this lesson.

Nonads ex wife cheated on him, with his best friend. He knows how devastating it is to be cheated on. Yet that didn't stop him from cheating on me. Yep he has a whole truck load of karma coming his way because he knows but he still did it.

Hi rose*petals and indigorose :-x

Yes, women cheat on men too. :_|

[the_great_she_elephant]

They delude themselves into thinking 'they' are different. "Their love" is real. So they 'cheated and lied'? "But they are Soul Mate Schmoopies so that makes it all okay."

You are so right, and so wise, Ms Cat. :-x

[kengillard]

What's this "soul mate" carp? is this a new thing to ease the guilt...my daughters ex (since last Tuesday yayyyyyyyyyyyyy) claimed he and the skank were 'soul mates'X-(


more hugs mioux....you're doing very well.♥

[not.happy.jan]

Exactly Catty. You got it in one. :-x

[cat_mioux]

What's this "soul mate" carp? is this a new thing to ease the guilt...my daughters ex (since last Tuesday yayyyyyyyyyyyyy) claimed he and the skank were 'soul mates'X-(

If the only way I could be with my soulmate was to lie, cheat and break the hearts of innocent people - I'd say my soulmate was evil. But that's just my opinion 😉


hugs for your daughter kengillard ♥

[kengillard]

don't know about soul mates, but they certainly deserve each other........it's been almost 2 years now, so wont be longB-)..once a cheater, always a cheater.

[cat_mioux]

OMG! :^O

It's all unravelled for him!

He's just announced his sister doesn't want him at her house any more. He can't get a job 'up there'. His son doesn't want him. His BIL who was bringing the trailer has pulled out. He can't afford to pay for a truck.

Now he's looking for rentals local here in Melbourne. But he hasn't got a job!

I just said "I don't care. As long as you are out by 2pm on Saturday because you are no longer on the lease".

I think the karma truck has just pulled up for nonads :^O