Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

I understand the not wanting to rock the boat comment cat. I felt the same, just wanted to get ut and get on with my life, but if I had I wouldn't be in the position I am now in. (owning my own home)
I took everyone's advice even though I thought it was unwarranted at the time. e.g.: changed the locks, bank accounts etc Took some good advice and sought out a solicitor known in the game as The Bulldog. Cost me a fortune but she turned out to be mostly worth it.
Loads of tooing and froing between his solicitor and mine which was annoying but because he poo poo'd every offer my solicitor put forward I ended up getting jack of it all and when his last measly counter offer came back I'd had a gutfull and said, I'll take it."
The Bulldog said, "no you won't"and put in a higher counter offer which he agreed to and with that piddly amount of money I was able to go to the bank and get the loan for the house by myself. Unlucky for him that in all his stalling tactic the value of our home had gone up since the initial appraisal and that made me getting finance easier.

I understand you not wanting to fight....I still do that now, it's kinda like I'm scared of him, but it's well worth getting/paying someone neutral to stand in your corner and fight for you.

She also made me realise that as he had signed the kids school enrollment form he was liable for half those costs and now I just divvy everything up 50/50 and he has to pay for that as well.

[cynthecowgirl]

PS: nurse here <<<<< get you chest pain investigated asap.

[dtrh3]

Dear Ms Cat,
Just checking in to see how you are doing :-xYou are doing so well-good on you!

Im not a big fan of revenge-though I can understand how satisfying it can be to think about it!From experience Ive learnt that it can hold you in limbo and the focus is on the other person,not on the healthier option:your healing.

I wonder if the ache you are feeling in your chest is heartache?It will heal,I can sense you believe this..

Have a really good day,do something special for yourself-sending strong thoughts of calmness and peace your way.

PS when I mentioned 'stuff; earlier,I didnt mean to belittle the things we all own that we hold dear-I hope you can come to a fair resolution with Mr over things that are meaningful to each of you-for example that Buddha statue you mentioned,but even if he takes it(though I cant imagine why,except that he knows how much you value it)he leaves with Buddha!!which is kind of an interesting thing-dont you think? :-x

[dtrh3]

Also,as others have advised,I do think some expert legal advice needs to be sought-even if its over the phone.You really need to be clear about your rights,and the law is there to help you.

[cat_mioux]

Im not a big fan of revenge-though I can understand how satisfying it can be to think about it!From experience Ive learnt that it can hold you in limbo and the focus is on the other person,not on the healthier option:your healing.

I wonder if the ache you are feeling in your chest is heartache?It will heal,I can sense you believe this..

Have a really good day,do something special for yourself-sending strong thoughts of calmness and peace your way.

PS when I mentioned 'stuff; earlier,I didnt mean to belittle the things we all own that we hold dear-I hope you can come to a fair resolution with Mr over things that are meaningful to each of you-for example that Buddha statue you mentioned,but even if he takes it(though I cant imagine why,except that he knows how much you value it)he leaves with Buddha!!which is kind of an interesting thing-dont you think? :-x

I just asked him not to take the Buddha Statue and we ended up fighting. So be it. Not worth it. And I also thought 'how interesting he is taking Buddha with him'. It shall unfold as it should. 😉

I don't want revenge. I want to focus on myself. He isn't worth spending 5 mins of my time on. As I have always said 'let karma deal with him'. I'm angry and I enjoy 'revenge' thoughts every now and then but my calm centred place restores me to balance before I'll 'action' these revenge thoughts.

The chest pain is stress/heart broken related. I've had it before.

'Bumped' into him in the kitchen. Asked him "haven't you got packing to do?". He replied "oh no I can't. Not in this heat". Muttered under my breath "oh poor baby. You want someone to so your packing for you as well?".

Sheesh. How on earth is he going to cope?

:^O

[thebraff]

Not your problem Cat, so don't go there.

Re your chest pains....Please get it checked out. It may not be what you are assuming it is. Many women remain undiagnosed with heart problems because they dismiss the pains as something else.

I mentioned to you yesterday that I was going to see Damien Leith and I was going to give my orange undies a trial run. Let me say hat both ventures were a success. My undies are so comfortable. I will now wash them and put them aside for the 14th February.
While I was listening to Damien sing :-x, he sang an original song from his album Where We Land. I am sure he sang it for you via me (with the orange undies on), because all the while he was singing it I was thinking of you.

I will write the lyrics here, but I have found a Youtube clip of part of the song so that you get an idea of the tune. The song is 'Alone' and it is at 1.36 of the clip.
Damien wrote this song for a friend who was going through a really tough time.
Youtube > http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNziFUvt-d0

Lyrics - Alone

I don’t know what to say
Cos I can’t see your face no more
This thing has taken you away
Take your time
Do your thing
But don’t let the sadness
Ruin everything.
Walking the road Alone,
It’s not how it has to be
You know I’m there beside you
And now you’re facing it on your own
It’s not how it’s meant to be
Don’t let the madness drive you down
Hit the wall
We’re here for you
You can’t pretend and hide away
‘Cos you’re too close to losing everything
This time has brought you to your knees
Oh, this time………….
This time is for real
You’re walking this road alone
It’s not how it’s meant to be
You know I am there beside you
And now,
You’re facing it on your own
It’s not how it’s meant to be
Don’t let the madness drive you down
Living underground
You can’t hear a sound
You’re walking this road alone
It’s not how it’s meant to be
You know I’m there beside you
And now,
You’re facing it on your own
It’s not how it’s meant to be
Don’t let the madness drive you down.

[blacksheep9772]

Cat, I totally agree with you about the legalities of this mess - it's not really worth all that drama. I know I would just want to get on with my own life rather than remain (emotionally) emersed in all this.

I think revenge 'thoughts' are fine. Once any of us act on those thoughts well, it totally changes things. You don't need to lower to that level. You are better than that. (And anyway, you said the kittehs scratched up the couch anyway!! ;-)) Like we said before about karma - he got a bucket load coming his way - and probably not the good kind. I beleive that you also have a big bucket load of karma coming your way (if it hasn't allready hit!) although yours will be much more positive and uplifting - full of all the good stuff! And that's because of the way you have dealt with this.

You are part of the OK Brigade remember!!! Strength in numbers! Or somefink 😉

(( HUGS )) :-x

[small_creeps_friend]

'Bumped' into him in the kitchen. Asked him "haven't you got packing to do?". He replied "oh no I can't. Not in this heat". Muttered under my breath "oh poor baby. You want someone to so your packing for you as well?".

Sheesh. How on earth is he going to cope?
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He's not going to Mioux. He is going to leave it to the last minute and expect you to find boxes and do the packing for him. :-(.....remeber how good he was at packing last time you moved. lol

I suggest you buy some extra garbage bags and when he is panicing and wants you to help, just hand him the bags and wander off to your girlfriend for the day. 😉

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

what a knob head

cut a hole in the back of all his jox so everyone can see what an butthole he is

Hey Cat, show us a pic of that Buddha he's taking,
and we'll buy you one infused with love

(or I could just nick the one reclining on Freddie's coffee table)

:-x

[cat_mioux]

braff sweetie thank you for posting the lyrics to the song and for thinking of me. When you think of me see me strong and HAPPY! Because I'm actually having strong happy moments! :-x

blackiesheep :-x It's what I keep reminding myself. Keeps me going.

Carol - gawd yes I remember everything I had to do when we last moved. I am NOT helping one little bit to help him pack. Except I'll be throwing his fugly statue and any other piece of carp into his car.

I keep visualising him getting in his car/truck? to leave and I'm practicing waving and smiling and saying "GOODBYE" then turning around and walking back inside MY house and closing the door to him.