Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

As for the undies and messages in the letter box. Just get a big pair of Bonds granny bangers and hang them over the letter box. Nobody in their right mind will go near it then. Added bonus....no bills either. 😉 Don't thank me.

[cat_mioux]

Hi wonderful women!

Jacks  that's the problem with working working working - all work and no play makes Jacks and Cat tired and cranky. As for your co-workers being rude? What's up their noses? Have you intruded on their little clique? Just be yourself and smile lots and they might warm up. Enjoy the dinner with your dad this evening!

Ms Braff and Flannie - changes can be stressful but persevere and it will become like home again. The quote thingy is easy. Just click on "reply" in the box of the post you want to quote. Then click on the little " icon next to the emoticon and that's all you need to do.

B3lla thank you. When I read "childish prank" I felt better because you are right. I have my phone by the bed, a torch too and I'm closing my living room curtains now. I never used to because you can't see in from the road but if someone walked up the driveway they could.

cyn teenagers! yes he could have borrowed a phone but they are kids and their bwains are not fully developed yet.

I have good news!  First my daughter and her b/f were due home in January. Then it was changed to Xmas Eve. Then it was changed to the 13/14th Dec now it seems she may be home on THURSDAY! This Thursday!

There was a stuff up with Qantas. They were going to New Zealand to visit a close friend but there are no available seats so they are coming home straight from Rio. But they are waiting for confirmation. I'm so excited! I'm running around furnishing the spare room. I've got an air mattress, a chest of drawers, I scored a free pink bedside lamp and I've bought pillows.

Hig and hugs to everyone! dtrh where are you? Hugs to those MIA. :-x

[my2cuddlycats_not]

Oh Cat, how exciting for you! I am excited for you!

Hello all, and higs and hugs. :-x

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Hi Everyone.

I haven't been around much. I have been having a really horrible couple of weeks. Police have taken out an AVO against the ex and his gf after 22months of stalking, harrassment, threats, abuse etc etc. The final straw was just over a week ago "she" accused Miss 14yo of being a druggo, something her mum should have swallowed and I am a s*** and that we should be very worried because she knows "lots of scary people". This was all whilst he was in the background cheering her on. And he allowed her to use his phone to do all this. 7 voicemails in 30 minutes, 14 texts. This doesn't include the 400+ similar texts over the past 22 months.

I have spent the last week and a half in tears and sick to the stomach. Court yesterday, the GF didn't show up. He did, with his brother...he hadn't sought any legal advice and so it got held over for mention again on the 16th...week before Christmas. I am so over all of this and I just want it to end.

My solicitor thinks I am nuts coz I filed for the divorce at his closet court (to make it easier for him) and all the other things I have put up with and let slide. The interim AVO states he isn't allowed to contact us in any way, shape or form. And my solicitor says that from the reports and evidence they will rule that this will be in place until the kids are 18yo.

I feel so sad and can't stop crying. This is not what I wanted. I wanted them to have a good relationship with their dad. I tried so many times to help him.

[cynthecowgirl]

lovelives, be sad, have a good cry but then learn to let it go. Don't you dare blame yourself for his stupid actions. As you said, you've tried, but that's all you can do so learn to accept that you gave it a shot, live with it and move on.

Donn't allow yourself to carry his burden. The fact that he isn't capable of developing a decent relationship with his kids is his problem, not yours. I know they're you're kids, but you can only ever be responsible for the relationship that you have with them. Don't focus on what they don't have from him, focus on what they can and do have with you and just love them in your own way. cyn X

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

lovelives, be sad, have a good cry but then learn to let it go. Don't you dare blame yourself for his stupid actions. As you said, you've tried, but that's all you can do so learn to accept that you gave it a shot, live with it and move on.

Donn't allow yourself to carry his burden. The fact that he isn't capable of developing a decent relationship with his kids is his problem, not yours. I know they're you're kids, but you can only ever be responsible for the relationship that you have with them. Don't focus on what they don't have from him, focus on what they can and do have with you and just love them in your own way. cyn X

I just know it doesn't need to be like this. I just wanna shake the crap out of him and wake him up. I know, in his own warped way, he loves them. His head is just too far up his own and her butts.

I think the reason it upsets me so much is that I missed out on having my Dad in my life from age 5yo, when he passed away. I think that is why I stayed as long as I did, I didn't want the girls not to have their Dad.

I am sorry I haven't been here supporting everyone else. I have just been wallowing and trying to survive and have had nothing else to give to anyone else. Other than all this life is really really wonderful at the moment.. I just seem to be stuck with this weighing on my heart.

The good news is we have a Divorce Date...23rd of January.

I know I have been a really poor excuse for a friend here and I am sorry. Sending you guys hugs and strength. :_|

[cynthecowgirl]

Don't you dare apologise to any of us. We all know how the highs and the lows affect each of us differently. X

As for the no dad theory, I know exactly what you mean. My dad died when I was 10 just 2 days before Christmas and some days I bawl with frustration thinking all I wanted when I was growing up was my dad and my kids have one and he gives more of a fat rats cracker about himself than them. But then that's his problem. You reap what you sew and even though it's only been about 4 years on....maybe 5, see I can't even be bothered counting anymore....even though it's only been a short time, I can already see my relationship with the kids, as batty as they drive me at times, is flourishing and in their own weird ways they are starting to show appreciation for all I do for them.

It pains me to hear them say negative stuff about their father, so I don't encourage it, I just listen without comment. Some times it makes me so sad, but he made his own bed and I'm not responsible for that.

[b3llag1na]

I just know it doesn't need to be like this. I just wanna shake the crap out of him and wake him up. I know, in his own warped way, he loves them. His head is just too far up his own and her butts.

I think the reason it upsets me so much is that I missed out on having my Dad in my life from age 5yo, when he passed away. I think that is why I stayed as long as I did, I didn't want the girls not to have their Dad.

I am sorry I haven't been here supporting everyone else. I have just been wallowing and trying to survive and have had nothing else to give to anyone else. Other than all this life is really really wonderful at the moment.. I just seem to be stuck with this weighing on my heart.

The good news is we have a Divorce Date...23rd of January.

I know I have been a really poor excuse for a friend here and I am sorry. Sending you guys hugs and strength. :_|

*love.... I agree 100% with what cyn said - you can only do what YOU can do, and you are definitely not to blame for your ex's (and his gf) actions.

And for heaven's sake, don't feel any guilt about ANYTHING from the boards! This thread is here to support anyone struggling... no guilt allowed.

And miss M! Thankyou !! I learnt how to do the quote thingy! YAY!

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Thanks you guys.

I am very very lucky in that the girls and I are doing beautifully and all have a great relationship now. We have a very happy, stable and loving homelife now. I am blessed in so many ways.

[cynthecowgirl]

My new catch phrase: There are 35 million people in this world, don't let 2 a holes ruin life for you.