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[cat_mioux]

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[dtrh3]

Dear Cyn,
Good that you posted-I dont think how you feel is pathetic.

Im sure all of us feel this way at some time or another-not to belittle you feeling this way at all :-x

I have read your posts here and you have struck me as an honest and brave person.I understand you dont like being regarded as strong,but you are brave and resilient and even though now you are feeling sad and alone,I sense you also know that this will pass..

Im sorry that youve had-clearly-a sad day,crying can be good,and sometimes it can be exhausting..Are you tired?
Perhaps an early night might be good,after a warm bath?

If you have the energy,perhaps you could get a sheet of paper and write down whats good about your life on one side and how you feel about these things..anything like good health,great kids,clean house etc..If you can focus on some positive things,perhaps you can move your mood a little..You can do this tomorrow if you feel too overwhelmed..

As I said originally,Im here if you do want to vent-maybe you could start you own thread?See what you think,but you arent alone :-x I hope you feel a bit better soon :-x

[kyliecrv]

I didn't want any of this but he gets to walk off and find happiness elsewhere ( and that's not the problem) but it just irks me that I'm just left here in our old life......this house, three kids, rabbit and it's hard to move on. I just want someone to love me. How pathetic is that. It's a lonly life, that's all.

Cyn, I have been SOO impressed with you strength and attitude in all your posts and hearing about your life.

You sound like a fantastic, loving and loyal person who will again find someone special who will treasure you and fill the void you are feeling right now that you didnt bring upon yourself but have to deal with.

Is there something that you have done to lift your spirits in the past? Some possibilities may include: a bubble bath with some soft music playing.
Chick flick with a block of choccie and some wine.
Calll up a girlfriend who knows your situation and cry? (One that I use) punch a pillow or a boxing bag if you have one and scream loudly to let out your emotions.

Tomorrow is a new day, when you wake up try to smile and tell yourself that you will laugh and enjoy yourself and live as happy as you can for you and your kids. ♥ ♥ ♥

Goodluck hunni ♥

[kyliecrv]

Ive heard Mioux say that she hopes that others can benefit from all the wonderful posters & advice here in this thread, so Im very sure she wont mind your post Cyn.
Life can be so hard and unfair too, but for all the lows there are also highs, hope your happy days far outweigh the sad ones lovely.

[Anonymous]

I didn't want any of this but he gets to walk off and find happiness elsewhere ( and that's not the problem) but it just irks me that I'm just left here in our old life......this house, three kids, rabbit and it's hard to move on. I just want someone to love me. How pathetic is that. It's a lonly life, that's all.

you will cyn there is some one out there ..
they just haven't found you yet ..

good friend went thru this ,thought she would be on her own for ever ..2 kids ,morgage ..ect..
she has now met a lovely guy ..
do something for your self ..if you can
good luck !

[keeliaclare]

Cynthe, I am so sorry you are feeling this way.

You have impressed me too, with your honesty and resilience, but every once in a while it is normal for things to "become too much"

I completely relate to being left with the old life, the kids, the animals, the house repairs etc. etc. while he goes about a new life. And I am very resilient too, but there were plenty of times when I got well and truly sick of being independant and strong....

It is incredibly hard to shoulder all that responsibiity on your own.

I can tell you though, the payoffs are worth it.....being with your kids, helping them grow....and I know it seems like forever, I can remember tallying up the years until I too could have a new life (at that stage it was about 12 years...), but this too will pass.

Sending you lots of love hun xx

[keeliaclare]

PS...you will be happy, truly happy again, I guarantee it.

Maybe with someone else (Mr Wonderful...they are out there) or maybe just on your own. Either is just fine. xx

[Anonymous]

very true keeli
I was 27 2 kids and was fully prepared to do it on my own ..
met the oh and was married with in two years
love of my life :-x
friend is in her mid fourties ...
sil's mum just remarried at 60 and is happy as ..
a few months can make such a difference hey !
and goes to show age doesn't matter .

[the_great_she_elephant]

Dear Cyn. Of course you are sad. Love is of huge importance in the all our lives.
True, we do get it in spades from our kids, but sometimes that is very hard to take comfort from, because as well as loving us they need us and it can feel as if we aqre always, giving, giving, giving and never getting back what we ourselves need.
Being single make it thar much harder, because there is no one to dump on when things get tough; no-one to understand when we say. I'm tired, I'm unhappy, I don't think I can cope.'
The only consolation I can offer is that we do cope - we cope because, when we have kids, the alternative is unthinkable; and because, however low we are, somewhere deep inside us there is a little voice that says: 'this will not last forever.'Tomorrow the sun will rise and I will be strong again.'
It's Ok to be sad - to feel the way you do. Don't try to deny it, or feel useless because you can't 'snap out of it'. Acknowledge it, recognise it for what it is - and know that it will pass. :-x

[dtrh3]

very true keeli
I was 27 2 kids and was fully prepared to do it on my own ..
met the oh and was married with in two years
love of my life :-x
friend is in her mid fourties ...
sil's mum just remarried at 60 and is happy as ..
a few months can make such a difference hey !
and goes to show age doesn't matter .

Nice to read about other brave and happy women-good news is good to read too :-x

[lind9650]

Dear Cyn, how well I know how you are feeling. Yes, it is something that can drag you down the dumps, but you know you have to be strong for your children, only a time comes when you can not pretend anymore and the tears start to flow.

Let them flow. Let yourself go and indulge in crying. It will clear your mind and pent up emotions.

I was left with five children. (yes, he found another one and left me on a Christmas day.) I buried myself in work and looking after my children, but every now and then I had nights like you are having now. I did not think any man would ever love me, especially not with all those children. So I concentrated my energy on being a good mother and forgetting about me.

Six years later one of my sons brought home a friend who lived with his father and three other siblings. The boys conspired behind our backs for the boys father and I to meet. Long story, but a year later we married, had a house full of kids, a lot of love and laughter. People in the town took bets that it would never last. LOL, it lasted for 30 years until my second husband died after a long illness.

Again I felt lonely. The children had grown up and dispersed all over the country. This time I was sure I was too old to ever find a loving partner and happiness again. I started to travel, spend time with family and enjoyed a new, single life. I was not even looking when I met someone on a Internet forum that shared a lot of my interests and we became friends. 18 month later I got married again at the age of 70. Have never been happier in my life.

So, dear Cyn, don't think you'll never find someone to love you. Just stop looking and love will find you. Cry if you feel sad, but know that better times are ahead of you if you are patient and make the best of today and every day.

Sorry Ms. Mioux, but the same story I would have told you after the big exodus of the bad baggage in your house.

((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) :-x