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[cat_mioux]

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[cat_mioux]

The L word?! 😮

Uh oh. Maybe a little too soon. How many weeks have you been dating Mr P?

He didn't say "I love your lasagne" or "I love the way you decorate" or "I love the way you make out?" ..

He actually said "I love you"?  😮

PS I had a good talk with my teacher. I felt like I was stagnating in life. She pointed out I had actually moved forward heaps. I'll just keep putting one foot in front of the other ...

[witches*wol]

Cat I am so glad you got the NO message loud and clear.

((hugs))

Crazy ~ Oh Wow the L word - Yikes!!!

[jack*in*a*box]

YIKES alright! He said , "I love you".

I told him it scared me. It been 4 weeks since we met. I asked him to slow down as we have just met and are just dating. He wants a relationship.

[the_great_she_elephant]

That would be a bit scarey, Jack. I do hope he can do as you ask and slow down, you obviously get on well with him it would be a shame if he ruined things by being too pushy.

What's his background? has he recently come out of a relationship? Is he lonely? Do you have any idea why he feels the need to push things ahead so quickly?

[kayedonproducts]

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YIKES alright! He said , "I love you".

I told him it scared me. It been 4 weeks since we met. I asked him to slow down as we have just met and are just dating. He wants a relationship.

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Yes, best to go slowly Jack - very slowly at this stage.  For one  you are still in grief from losing your Mum, and all experts on grief advise not to make big decisions for maybe as long as 12 months.  I know that is usually in regard to losing a partner, but from my experience when I lost my Dad 5 years ago, if I was in the position you are now, I was not capable of making decisions about anything much.

Of course I have a husband, so a bit different, but I still believe grief affects the way we think which can change overnight.

From what I've read you are a pretty wise woman, so sure you will make the right decision - 4 weeks is not very long.  How old is he - hope he's not somebody I know..

Know some men who have jumped into relationships to be burnt - two being uncles of mine, both intelligent men, 2 being friends

Hi to everybody else - hope you are going OK.

[jack*in*a*box]

I don't know who you know Kaydon 🙂 He's 3 years older than me. He's been single for 5 months after a 3-4 year relationship. He has never been married. He invited me over his house for dinner yesterday and we went for a walk down the beach.

I'm treading slowly as I know I'm still mourning mum. Some days I can't wait to see him and other days  I'm just meh. He is growing on me.but I told him that it's moving a bit fast and I feel like I'm missing out on the courting phase. He wants me to be happy so he is respecting my wishes.

Master 7 likes him. He plays boardgames with him and will run around the backyard playing soccer and cricket with him so that is nice. Sometimes Master 7 will ask "is Mr. Potter  coming over today?"

I have NEVER had a man (date) meet my children before. This is all new to me. I've never dated a man long enough before ;\

Sometimes when Mr. Potter speaks of the future I tell him not to count his chickens just yet...mean I know but I don't want him to get comfortable because I'm not where he is at..

Have a fab day lovely OKers. My pooch is going to the pet parlour today. She's going to look so bootiful :-x

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

morning all you wise ones:-)

jack:-x so much I could say,but I wish I could give you a big hug!

I think mr potter feels you are awesome and hes made himself vulnerable to let you know. I would take a leaf out of master 7s book(and I know hes a wise one too:-xlove this kid!) and have some fun and joy..enjoy the company,and if things are going a little fast,just speak up,like you already have.You are lovable and maybe,just maybe,mr potter is worth it.

ms Cat:-x as you have been-quite sternly-told,dont do it.So not worth your time,energy nor your future happiness.that mr is long gone and in your heart of hearts I feel you would be v surprised if he has changed.Sometimes as I am curious!I too have thought'I would like to see what-x- is up to'..but then I think,and what if they werent happy/healthy/missing me??What would I do then?and thats when I think-oh hang on,this is real life,and its not some altered state I can visit..then I let the thought go.

Something Ive been thinking lately-Whats really odd,and cool,is that day by day nothing seems to change and then one day we see that everything is different.

Sending lots of calm healing thoughts to(((freddie)))and(((mr freddie)))..hope he is over his cold..take care of yourselves..

kylie:-xSamantha is a bright and bonny bundle of joy:-xany movement from that lounge yet??:| It must be mighty uncomfortableX-(

to all others higs and hugs-keep your chins up and know tomorrow is another day

oh,and where is that braff?:-):-x

youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit

[my2cuddlycats_not]

higs and hugs :-x:-x

[cat_mioux]

Good afternoon fabulous OK'ers :-x

Jacks - it's wonderful that Mr P knows you are the one for him. Sometimes you just know. But I can understand why you want the relationship to unfold at a pace you are comfortable with. 4 weeks is rather a short time to really know the other person enough to feel you are in love with them.

But it's all subjective isn't it? Mr P obviously loves the way he feel when he's with you. He loves thinking of a future with you. But I doubt he really knows you well enough after a month to say he loves you. That takes time. You are being absolutely sensible in telling him to slow down a bit.

Some guys do better in a relationship than being single. I suspect Mr P, at the moment, is in love with the idea of being in a relationship with an obviously fabulous OK'er. :-x

I hope Mr Pooch enjoys his day at the salon.

YCDI - I love your philosophy on life, always have. Yes, I wish I could "see" how Mr Ex was doing but only from a safe distance. If I actually contacted him it could open up a whole can of worms I worked hard to seal up and bury  :^O

I hope you are doing fabulously well :-x

Big hugs for Kylie, Cuddlybunny, Mrs Braff, She-Ele and all whom post and lurk.

[cat_mioux]

PS I did something brave this morning. For 2 years I've put up with nextdoors dog barking constantly from 7am every morning right outside my bedroom window.  As a shift worker, I rely on sleeping late.

This morning I'd had enough. I threw on my big fluffy purple dressing gown, looking a fright with bed hair and no makeup and had a little talk with the owner.

Yay! Now I might actually get more than 5 hours sleep.