Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

freddie!!!!:-x

you are both in my thoughts.Big Love.

PS mr freddie eats better than I do:-x

[cat_mioux]

Hi lovely OK'ers!

Mrs Freddie lots of love and good energy coming your way for your few days in Sydney. I hope Mr Freddie does well. Juices are fabulous! My juicer broke but I'll be subtly giving hints to my son I'd like one for Xmas B-)

YCDI I love your good energy! I know it works because I've been the recipient. :-x

L is home from hospital. My sister is still strong and even has her sense of humour intact. I'm in awe of her strength. The psych told her daughters look to their mothers as an example of how to handle anxiety and stress.

I've decided to see this event from another perspective. L didn't succeed. That's worth being happy about. Maybe this will be the turning point? Maybe L will use this experience in a positive way in the future. I know her mother has been writing letters, emails, meetings with teachers ... to blow the lid off this insidious sub culture of idolising suicide in the younger generation.

I wonder if this is my family's karma? To experience then "educate".

I did the same when my first baby was stillborn at 7 months way back in the early 80's. The policy then was to whisk the baby away before the parents saw him/her then arrange a "hospital burial". It took me a year to find out where my son had been buried. Then I kicked asss. I spoke to the doctors involved, I wrote a major essay on "The Effects of Stillbirth on Grieving Parents" while in Uni, I conducted a survey of parents who had lost a baby through stillbirth and I gave talks to the Childbirth Association. I believe I was one small part in the process of changing the usual policy. Now parents get to hold their baby, spend time with the baby and organise a private burial.

Maybe there is a purpose after all. Maybe there is a bigger picture. Already L is talking about becoming a youth worker to work with kids who are having a hard time.

[kyliecrv]

Mioux great post! point beautiful daughter is beaming after getting her braces removed this morning!!!

She is soooooo happy! In perfect time for bridesmaid duties on Saturday! 🙂

Hubs will be moving out on Monday, he's devastated and of course I feel dreadful and guilty for hurting him..... Done this many times through out our 7 year relationship, it's not a good cycle 😞

[kyliecrv]

Blame iPad for weird wording and spacing in above post...... Seriously it's taking me ages to get the hang of it!

[the_great_she_elephant]

Mioux great post! point beautiful daughter is beaming after getting her braces removed this morning!!!

She is soooooo happy! In perfect time for bridesmaid duties on Saturday! 🙂

Hubs will be moving out on Monday, he's devastated and of course I feel dreadful and guilty for hurting him..... Done this many times through out our 7 year relationship, it's not a good cycle 😞

And this is the time you are going to break that cycle, Kylie. You know now that you are strong enough.:-x

2 more sleeps till the wedding.:-D  How lovely for your DD that her braces have come off just in time.

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

Morning all you wise ones:-)

Just a super quick fly through on my way to retailworld and the bossman..(trying to gather all my energy,worked from 10-9:30 last night:_|)and today will be another lonnnng day..

sending out big love to (((freddie and mr freddie))) hope you are both comfortable and resting up..you are obviously an excellent nurse freddie:-x-mr f is fortunate to have such support.

ms Cat:-x thankyou for sharing more details of your extraordinary life.You are one brave,wise soul- this home is also another learning area you have developed. Im sorry to read of your first baby-how devastating for you..and yet in all that pain,you were able to rise up and tenderly acknowledge and celebrate their life and yours.Again,I am in awe.:-x

higs and hugs to all who post,sorry this is so brief-have a great day all..off to pull my boots on and a swipe of lipstick and hey-supa woman flies off:^O

you can do it you can do it you can do it

[lurker17260]

I only rarely come into this thread but someone must have been talking to me this morning.

Thank you cat_mioux for playing a part in allowing my darling sister to have some time with their beautiful baby boy.  They were able to hold him and cuddle him and we all have wonderful photos of him.  His sisters and brother "know" him and he is always remembered as a very real part of our family.

Thank you from us all.

[kyliecrv]

Thinking of Freddie & Mr Freddie. (((((hugs)))))

Im working today- not my normal day, but sister & dad are off for Wedding preparations!

Yesterday I did Hair colour touch up/ nails/ tan etc, and finalised Samantha's outfits (2 dresses) for the big day!!!

Ok, Im struggling with something with the hubs... he keeps sending me texts asking me to do marriage counselling.

That he will arrange & make apts etc, and when I dont respond, sends upset texts that he cant understand why I wont do the counselling to work on things and he knows for sure that he wants to but Im the one who wont...

I simply dont want to... full stop. It's not going to help because I am no longer interested in this life that I have been trapped in. I feel like its flogging a dead horse, and that just because he says all his promises etc in front of a 3rd party, Im spose to just believe that it will all be ok ..... THIS time... it NEVER ever is! Ive believed him time after time after time and he never sticks to all his promises!!

But he makes me feel awful 😞

[the_great_she_elephant]

Honey, repeat after me. I DO NOT HAVE TO DO MARRIAGE COUNSELLING.

If it was the first time you were separating, I'd say yes, the marriage is worth saving. BUT, as you have said, you have tried reconcilliation several times before. and he has never EVER kept the promises he made in order to woo you back. This is manipulation, pure and simple - part of an ongoing cycle -  and unless you break it you will never have the happy life you want and your family deserves.

I don't think you can avoid the occasional twinges of guilt, but it is really important that you understand where they are coming from - they not your conscience talking to you, they are simply an unavoidable part of breaking free and NOTHING to do with what you ought or ought not to be doing :-x

[kyliecrv]

Honey, repeat after me. I DO NOT HAVE TO DO MARRIAGE COUNSELLING.

Thank you for your supportive post.... I will remember those words.

Heading to bed after finally packing for thee Wedding weekend!

So exciting!