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[cat_mioux]

:^O

[chuk_77]

ok i haven't called him, I know I can't/shouldn't and I'm not. however I am getting drunker by the second.
Thanks for your advice or is it advise I always get confused.
He has told me to go but said I don't have to rush it, said he needs time on his own. He also said he likes me being here.
I want to be here for him I want to keep an eye on him but I do have to leave I know that.
However I will be coming back to see the dogs so can check up on his welfare then.
And no he absolutely has not been violent or aggressive toward me. That is one thing I will always give him credit for I know beyond a shadow of a doubt he will never physically hurt me.

[jack*in*a*box]

You give him credit for not being violent or aggressive to you?

Hurt is just as hurtful when it's mental/emotional.

Thinking of you ♥

[chuk_77]

I know crazy but it does make it easier being here knowing I don't have to fear him.
Just want it over, want to wake up and the whole nightmare is gone. Feeling a bit numb now and listening to a bit of led zep, faith no more and the hoods so life is OK for now. And ibis posted the best song on the music thread thinking of playing it tomorrow with my morning cuppa might be a good way to start the day.
Nearly fell off my chair laughing

[toon_town_nutter]

Please don't drink hun. You've not been eating much it can't be good for your tum.

[chuk_77]

sane part of me says not to but it feels better. I'm dancing, not crying not pining (pinning) it doesn't hurt I never let go and it feels good to do it. Had a huge fight with my dog, she won, got the hole in my hand to prove it too. We were only playing tho, she doesn't like my singing. Not the sad songs anymore got the hilltop hoods blaring love em

[kyliecrv]

chuk, just about to head to bed but wanted to pop in to give you lots of hugs and cyber vibes of strength.

One day at a time, dont think it too far ahead for now, small steps and see what will develop.

Thinking of you and the other OKers, just cos I dont post regularly, Im still keeping up to date and happy to see Mioux's continuing progress! XXX

[cynthecowgirl]

Just checking in to see how everyone is travelling this morning.
chuk, how did you end up last night?

[chuk_77]

ended up alright bit blerk today don't do late nights well. Just about to get my 2nd coffee and start doing stuff

[cat_mioux]

Checking in to lend my support to Ms Chuk :-x

Mr Chuk may be using the 'depression' card to justify his actions. I can't help remember when Mr Cat used the "I'm depressed, I'm thinking suicidal thoughts" after he announced he 'loved me but is not in love with me' speech 2 days before Xmas Day. This was a couple of weeks before I found out he was having an affair. I was so worried about him and spent hours comforting him. Did he offer a crumb of comfort to me? I feel like a fool. Little did I know the real reason he was leaving me. He wasn't depressed. He was enjoying his 'soulmate' love affair with skankyho.

I believed he was manipulating me to feel sorry for him and deflect the real reason he was leaving me, which was the affair.

Chuk I just need you to know that Mr Chuk may not be as 'depressed' as you think he is. There may be other reasons why he has cut family members off. He seems to be able to keep up his social life okay. I'm not suggesting he is having an affair but sadly I believe he believes he wants to be fancy free and single again with little thought for the many years you have spent together.

I would stop focusing on him. I don't think he is serious about seeing a doctor. He is only just saying that to keep you feeling sorry for him. He wants you to feel sorry for him rather than express your anger that he can just discard your relationship so easily.

Let him see what life without will be like. Don't comfort him, counsel him, cook for him, clean ... Just focus on you. He can't have it both ways. He can't ask you to leave but still have you worrying and looking after him.

He's a grown man. Let him sort himself out.

((hugss))

[cynthecowgirl]

^^^^^^^look how far out girl has come. 😄
Couldn't be any more prouder of you cat if I tried. :-x

You won't be ok. You are ok. XXX