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[cat_mioux]

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[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

It may also be worthwhile making it clear that you are recording his behaviour. My ex is well aware that I keep all text messages, emails and voice-mails  I also made him aware that I recorded phone calls (when I would still talk on the phone to him). It came in very handy for court and shut him down very quickly.

Nowadays I only correspond via text with him and when he comes to visit our youngest (eldest refuses to see him) he does not enter my home and our neighbour always happens to be sitting having a cuppa with us on our veranda. And I am having to do this more than 3 years since leaving him (due to his tantrums and outbursts)!

[cat_mioux]

Wonderful advice and support from some wise women Kylie.  :-x :-x

Don't be afraid to kick assss.

[happyroo_bunji]

(((((((kylie)))))))

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

Morning all you wise ones:-x

big hug and a deep breath (kylie) Im sorry this one doesnt seem to be getting it. Its about Samantha not anyone else.

At the moment hes behaving as if its about him. Someone- perhaps professional needs to say 'no, its about Samantha and whats best for her' I would be seeing a solicitor and getting advice- but thats just me. I would definitely change the locks. 

Take care of yourself and your family.(((hugs)))

Have a good day everyone:-x

you can do it you can do it you can do it

ps braff- pmsl when I pictured your whirling dervish dance- made my day!!!

[bryony_girl_baby]

Mediation will make you feel like you have some control Kylie. That is an incredible feeling. They will also make it very clear what everyone's rights are and he will be told in no uncertain terms when he is not behaving appropriately. They have seen every kind of parent that exists. They will not be manipulated and they will not be bullied. If you haven't done it already, book it today. Even just knowing you have taken that step will help. 

Being reasonable and trying to work it out on your own with an ex only works if you have a reasonable ex. Unfortunately it doesn't sound like you do.

[the_great_she_elephant]

Kylie, I suspect because he is having to negotiate with you, he feels you are trying to "control" everything. I think you really need to get a legal agreement drawn up, then it will all be down in black and white, he will have confirmation from an impartial mediator of what is a reasonable arrangement, he will know exactly what he can and can't do and he won't be able to take it out on you.

[the_great_she_elephant]

I forgot to add, hugs to everyone - especially the Freddie's and I hope you all had a great Easter break. (((hugs)))

[freddie*rooster]

Kylie, I suspect because he is having to negotiate with you, he feels you are trying to "control" everything. I think you really need to get a legal agreement drawn up, then it will all be down in black and white, he will have confirmation from an impartial mediator of what is a reasonable arrangement, he will know exactly what he can and can't do and he won't be able to take it out on you.

Very wise post ele.

Hi you can, wonderful to see you back, we missed you ♥

I have  2 more rads to go, my last being 10a.m. Thursday woohoo 😄 My son and DIL will take us home Thursday afternoon. We have a month at home before I need to come back for a check up with the surgeon.

[freddie*rooster]

Kylie, thinking of you. It's a horrible situation to be in, but sadly you need to protect yourself and your family. The sooner you do this, the sooner things will settle and hopefully your ex will realize he can't just roll into your home when it suits. Sammy needs to have a relationship with her Dad, providing that relationship is healthy and happy for Sammy, life should be more stable and happy for everyone. I personally would get access/visitation sorted ASAP.

[cat_mioux]

:-x for Freddie  2 rads to go, 1 rad to go then home 😄