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[cat_mioux]

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[freddie*rooster]

Thanks Catty 😄

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

Morning all you wise ones:-)

sending out lots of calm healing light to (((freddie))) will be thinking of you this morning:-x

Hope you wont be too uncomfortable- Im glad you have support and the thought of a month off is all good. Hugs to mr freddie:-x-hope hes healing well.

to all others, have a great day out there- wherever you are, its cold (11 degrees) down here in melbournetown, am off to help prep the frame of a large window so it can be painted..but no high ladders for me! haha bbl

you can do it you can do it you can do it

[cat_mioux]

Hi lovely people!

Hugs to Freddie and Kylie and all whom might need them :-x

A big wave 0/ to YCDI! It was a cold cold morning, now the sun is shining and it's going to be 27C on Sunday. WT?!! Preparing a window YCDI? At home or work?  😄 

Have a great day everyone. Kylie please let us know how you are.

[freddie*rooster]

Hello lovelies,

Home today 😄 Been to the fryer this morning, just waiting now for number 1 son to to arrive  to take us home.:-D

Thank you all for your support during our yuky time ♥

Hope you're doing OK kylie:-x

[cat_mioux]

Have a safe trip home Freddies. :-x

[kyliecrv]

Kylie please let us know how you are.

hi OKers... Thanks for the advise and wishes/ support. X

I'm still at a loss at what to do.... He begrudgingly accepted my request that he didnt come here on Tues night, but came last night, he will also be coming tonight as I haven't told him not to.

i will say to leave Friday and talk about the weekend. He is NOT happy!

ive asked him several times to bring me a list of his preferred days/ times to come and he says he's working on it.

ive called Relationships Australia to try and get us into mediation but they told me there is a waiting list of months and even longer for court. They took my number and told me that someone will call me with advise today, still waiting.

until we can get things formalised I need to sort suitable times (pref to negotiate with him) but what if he just won't agree??? 

There is nreason for police/avo so what am I supposed to do?

im worried he is stalling as he is seeing a solicitor ( getting in ahead), I just want it to be fair!!

i feel sick with nerves all the time 😞

[cat_mioux]

((Kylie))

You need to take control, that will help your nerves :-x Tell him what day/night you prefer. Then he can tell you if they are suitable for him, then you can work around it so it's suits both of you. Don't wait for him to give you a list of his preferred days. He'll string you along if you give him the power.

[the_great_she_elephant]

Kylie, ENOUGH WITH TRYING TO SORT IT OUT YOURSELF. It's not working, is it? Take the whole thing to the family court and get THEM to lay down the rules. As long as it's simply you telling him what you want he's going to continue to chuck tantrums and make life difficult.

[the_great_she_elephant]

If you can't gt a family court date then see a solicItor - NOW, TODAY.

And did you know you can arrange for him to pick up and drop off Samantha anywhere you choose - he doesn't need to come to your house AT ALL!

[bryony_girl_baby]

You can't go to court without going to mediation first. Or rather if you do get to court they will simply refer you for mediation. It's a step that can't be skipped. 

The churchy charities run mediation too. Were you given any of those to try? I went to Anglicare but the catholic church runs them too. Try them all and find who can see you the soonest. Relationships Australia were the ones who put me on to Anglicare because their waiting list was over 6 months. I was in to Anglicare in a matter of weeks. It was scary as all heck but it was definitely a turning point. When he realises there are people who won't tolerate his being a bully or being pushy then he'll soon settle down. He'll have no choice. 

Seeing a solicitor is a good idea. You don't have to do anything. Just being able to talk to someone to find out where you stand legally will help. They won't push you to do anything but they will help you feel like you have a bit of control.