Divorce

[dynogrl]

Not sure if anyone remembers.....  thought I'd do an update anyway.

I haven't been on the boards for a long while, just a lurk or two everynow and then...

I ended my 24 year marriage June last year and finally had my divorce granted last week....less than a month and it will be absolute!

It's been a hard 16 months but I finally got here and couldn't be happier...can't say the same for the ex LOL, he's a sad sorry mess that isn't working and is homeless 

[dynogrl]

No point feeling sorry for him, he does enough of that himself.  Yes he has mental health issues but he's been offered a LOT of help, just refuses to accept.  He would rather live in his car and send messages to his kids that he wants to kill himself.  I'm over it......well and truly.  

[newstart2380]

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@dynogrl wrote:

No point feeling sorry for him, he does enough of that himself.  Yes he has mental health issues but he's been offered a LOT of help, just refuses to accept.  He would rather live in his car and send messages to his kids that he wants to kill himself.  I'm over it......well and truly.  

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Then tell Then tell him to do it and not muck it up like he did his marraige, MY OH first wife kept saying she would kill herself and that was 20 years ago, still living and complaining.

[dynogrl]

I won't be telling him anything..... our eldest daughter is learning not to buy into his pity party. Everytime he has a meltdown she gets in the car trying to find him. I think he enjoys the attention. He went MIA last night and for the first time she ignored him and left him to his own devices

[cherry*135]

That is a very bad way to treat your children (even if they are young adults).. emotional blackmail.

[dynogrl]

agreed

[freddie*rooster]

Mental illness is a sad plight, he's not the first and won't be the last to refuse help. It's hard for men to admit they need help, I can't imagine anyone choosing to live in their car for attention, I hope someone can reach out to him and see to it that he gets the help he obviously needs.

[latina4621]

Dyno, i am sending you big hugs

no one understands exactly what you have been through so it would be hard for anyone to try too

as they have not been through what you have

so i wouldn't go too hard on people.

i want to wish you all the best in your new life.

[ten*teeny*tiny*toes]

If he has mental health issues a lot of it may be beyond his control...

Sorry Am, I did not mean to kudo that posat. I was on the ipad and meant to hit reply.

[freddie*rooster]

I'm not berating Dyno, I wish her all the best. I don't know what her life has been like with her OH, but I can't help but feel sad for him, sad because he refuses help.  That's just me, I guess.

[cherry*135]

From past posts the ex has siblings (not sure about parents).. you think one of them would be able to get through to him,

Ex is the parent, he should not be treating his children that way.. that can lead to them havng mixed up lives.