Do you ever feel like you are being stalked?

[donnashuggy]

How can you be sure? If you are sure what did you do about it?

[purple_haize]

Yrs ago, when my kids were little, I had on different occasions flowers sent to me from a florist plus the bill..........I rang the florist & said I didnt order them, asked was it male for female, she said female, I said does my voice sound the same and she said no, I said right, I didnt send them to myself and I am not paying the bill..............never heard any more about it.

Another time and this happened a couple of times, had pizzas sent from Pizza Hut, told the guy I never ordered them take them back, so he did.

That happened twice, both times he took them back, to this day, have no idea who it was.....

I found it pretty nerve wracking as there was only me and the kids that lived in the house.

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

sending flowers is a bit odd, but some of this stuff sounds like bored teenager pranks.

Not saying it wouldn't be unsettling, but I think some people watch too much bart simpson

[debra9275]

PH I look at it this way. You must've meant an awful lot to someone for them to go to all that trouble.

I hope it has stopped for you

[the_great_she_elephant]

, as far as i'm concerned, stalking on a chat board is a non-event and people who complain about it are simply being precious.

However, when it spills over into RL, it can be frightening and downright dangerous. I havenever been stalked myself, but I have heard a few horror stories - straight from the horses mouth - of RL cyber stalking that happened as a result of personal dislikes on chat boards. They included:

Auction bombing

Threatening phone calls

Malicious reports to DOCS

Malicious letters sent to employers

Malicious reports to councils (in that case I believe it had to do with Christmas lights and backfired badly when a bewildered home owner who had never put up a Christmas light in his life was 'investigated' by the local council because the stalker got the address wrong)

I'm sure other posters would have their own stories

Of course, this activity is always done anonymousl, so it is always difficult to track down the perpetrators but it does make you wonder about the mentality of people who resort to this kind of behaviour.  

[purple_haize]

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@debra9275 wrote:

PH I look at it this way. You must've meant an awful lot to someone for them to go to all that trouble.

I hope it has stopped for you

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Yeah that all stopped, I did think maybe it was my ex husband, still dont know, I got a restraining order when he left as he was a very violent sick man...........to this day I dont know, but when you have little kids in the house and you are the only adult, it does get to you.

I got the restraining order on the advice of the police, who came to the house one night, just before OH left, the ex had threatened to kill me and burn the house down with the kids in it, my neighbours rang the police & they took him away.

[polksaladallie]

A restraining order is just a piece of paper.  Had it ripped up in front of me.  Then the door pushed open.  Don't ever think a chain on the door stops anybody.  Stones thrown onto the roof in the middle of the night.  Knocks on the door in the middle of the night and a police car driving away, so the other person in the car must have been complicit.  Television cords under the house cut, etc. etc.  Eventually I had to go to the top, and he was sent to woop woop, but it continued in another form.  This was in the days before I had a telephone, so it didn't include that. 

[the_great_she_elephant]

OMG Polks - and PH. I don't know how I would cope with something like that 

[purple_haize]

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@polksaladallie wrote:

A restraining order is just a piece of paper.  Had it ripped up in front of me.  Then the door pushed open.  Don't ever think a chain on the door stops anybody.  Stones thrown onto the roof in the middle of the night.  Knocks on the door in the middle of the night and a police car driving away, so the other person in the car must have been complicit.  Television cords under the house cut, etc. etc.  Eventually I had to go to the top, and he was sent to woop woop, but it continued in another form.  This was in the days before I had a telephone, so it didn't include that. 

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Yes, it was only a bit of paper, but my ex did some dreadful things to his kids and me, when I got a divorce, he wasnt allowed to have any visitation with his daughter.......I wont say why on here.

Before I got the restraining order, ex would come home, unplug the phone, lock all the doors, take the keys to front and back door and car keys, and he use to do some dreadful things, this went on all the time, he also use to drink 1/2 a flagon of sweet sherry a night.

So when he left, that was it...........he walked out that door and never got back in, but I know he use to stalk me, he would follow me, he eventually hooked up with some one else and moved to NSW, last time I heard anything of his where abouts he was in a hospital with mental problems.........do I care.......no, not after the hell he put me and the kids through, especially my daughter.

[joz*garage]

i live next door to one

he seemed obsessed by me

what did i do? stuck a screen up and avoided him like the plague

talk only if it is absolutely essential (cant even bare to have a conversation with him, its a complete idiot too

hate that man, hes lucky im his neighbour, somebody else woulda knocks his lights out by now

i think hes mentally ill

[polksaladallie]

Well, you and I have experienced lots of awful and similar things.  My point was that a piece of paper doesn't stop anyone.  My ex-husband was allowed only one hour a week visitation in my presence.  He did it three times, then never again.  Was not interested in them.