Do you think Birth Mothers is an insensitive comment?

[donnashuggy]

Apparently Tony Abbott has withdrawn the comment and apologised.

[izabsmiling]

The OP asked for opinions. Mine doesn't change based on what someone else might think.... my friend does not find the term offensive and she is affected by the policy and it still wouldn't change if she did........however, I would be mindful of her feelings and not discuss it with her..

would you think different if your friend was one of the parents who did find it inappropriate in relation to forced adoptions ?

[azureline**]

would you think different if your friend was one of the parents who did find it inappropriate in relation to forced adoptions ?

I believe I addressed that in my comment?

[kengillard]

what a storm in a teacup.........nothing happens without "someone" turning it into a political dispute on here.

[patchoo78]

I don't know about you, Patchoo, but I'd be pretty ticked off if my children started referring to me as their incubator - but then I wasn't forcibly prevented from raising my children.

Well it was a tongue in cheek comment, but while we're on the subject; I could certainly refer to my mother as an incubator.. She didn't have much hand in raising me at all, and has said to all three of her kids that she wishes she didn't even have kids at all.. 

I know without a doubt that had my father not wanted a child of his own, I wouldn't be here at all.. 

[patchoo78]

I am not judging anybody.... who is to tell me what I can think or say on cs or anywhere else? ? I clarified it as MY OPINION.

Exactly, and the poll asked for everyone's opinion on whether they find the term offensive not the person who it was affecting.. 

I don't find it offensive, but there isn't a lot that I find offensive.

I still find it funny that some can be offended on someone's behalf without even knowing the person or knowing if said person actually is offended.

[izabsmiling]

in order to judge a comment as insensitive don't we need to consider/look at what others think ?

[izabsmiling]

I believe I addressed that in my comment?

Yes you did Az.You can use the term birth mother with your friend as she does not find it offensive.If she did you would be more mindful of her feelings .....and perhaps using the term Birth Mother to her would be insensitive ?

I don't know your friend or any of the parents of Forced Adoption upsetting .To me they are all equal 

[izabsmiling]

I don't know your friend nor the parents who find the term Birth Parents in regards to their forced adoption upsetting .To me they are all equal.I would not want to upset any of them.

[patchoo78]

Iza, the poll asked: Do you think Birth Mothers is an insensitive comment?

Not: "Do you think that persons affected by forced adoption should find the term insensitive?"

I can't judge whether someone will find something offensive or insensitive, it's all up to the individual person.. 

I imagine that a lot of them would,  and some might not find it insensitive.. 

You can't tell people how they should feel about something that affects them.

[izabsmiling]

You can't tell people how they should feel about something that affects them.

exactly.