Have you ever "accidentally" ended up in a relationship?

[aspie*mum]

I had a horrifyingly awful breakup with my fiance in August last year.  By September I had moved cities, got a new job, got my child into a new school and settled back into my life.  I also went out with my girlfriends one night (to drown my sorrows) and met an extremely good looking Kiwi who I ended up having a passionate night with (which was good for my self esteem).  

I never intended to see him again but we spent the next 2 months sending text messages which consisted of little more than "Bootie call?" and "when / where?".  I was not looking for a boyfriend (in fact made it very clear I wasn't!) and this worked extremely well.

HOWEVER, by November we'd gone to the movies together a few times.  Gone to the beach a couple of times.  By December he'd met some of my friends and I'd met his.  By January we went on a holiday together for 4 days (I should have listened to my wise girlfriend who stated "bootie calls don't go on holidays together" and (horror OH horror) he's started introducing me as his girlfriend.

So, I have accidentally gotten myself a boyfriend.  And the timing is so bad.  I've basically ended up jumping from one relationship to another without having any "me" time in between!

A lovely boyfriend.  A great looking boyfriend.  But a thoroughly unsuitable flirty tarty boyfriend.  

And I didn't want a boyfriend.

But, I have one and he's so lovely to me that I don't really want to get rid of him.

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

2:59pm.

[katymatey*]

I don't think there is any rhyme or reason as to when the emails arrive. Sounds like most of us got mail, so not much point blaming.

[joz*garage]

Mine says 3 hours ago, Soo.. what has this told you Trish?

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

It is sad when people pat each other on the back over demeaning a person and their perceived attractiveness or lack thereof.

It is also sad when people can't have an opinion without being demeaned for sharing their own experience or view.

And this isn't about taking sides because Joono and I have locked horns before.

It is just an observation.

I wonder how many of the "backpatters" posts have been removed ?

[katymatey*]

All I know is that the post I found unpleasant is still there, and I earned a pinker bottom for saying so. So I guess my opinion doesn't count.

[shinynewid]

Me too

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Wasn't meaning you Pepe. I also didn't take her post in that way. I took it that that is how she would feel after a one night stand, a personal opinion. I didn't take it that she was saying that about the OP, or maybe I just try to see the best in people ? Naive probably.

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Joono probably had a similar upbringing to me...one night stands were frowned upon and sox was a duty rather than a joy. I have only ever had one one-night-stand and as a result of my Catholic Guilt upbringing I felt terrible, ashamed and dirty. I would never label someone else in that way, but that is how I felt about myself.
That was my experience at the time. My outlook is very different nowadays.

[joz*garage]

It is also sad when people can't have an opinion without being demeaned for sharing their own experience or view.

perhaps

i question the motives behind the opinions of some, What compels them to make  controversial comments on this public format in the first place?

[joz*garage]

so in other words Trish, some can dish it, but....