He's a silly boy

[lurker17260]

I've just found out my son has broken up with his girlfriend of about 2 years.  So sad.  I really thought this one was a keeper.  I know he's an adult and has to make his own choices and there is nothing I can or should do, but, they seemed so happy and well suited to each other. 

You only ever want them to be happy don't you.

[freddie*rooster]

Awww that's sad Lurker, was she a nice girl, did you get on well with her?

Maybe they just had a tiff and will realize they can't be apart.

[lurker17260]

Yes freddie.  She's lovely and we got on well.  I'm thinking about contacting her myself and telling her even though they seem to be going their own ways I don't want to lose contact with her.  Would that be too awkward?

He's talking about moving from Qld to Vic so I don't think they will get back together.

I'm very sad for them both.

[tasfleur]

... that's a bit sad Lurker, because it sounds as though you are and would be a wonderful mother in law if they were to marry.  What a lovely person you are, and yes, I would get in touch with her and let her know nothing has changed, you still like her very much and the relationship between you could be maintained xxx

[freddie*rooster]

100% agree with what Tas said Lurker, it's sad but we have to take a step back and allow them to make their own way in life. I want grand babies, but neither my son or his partner seem to be interested in having a family. I just adore kids, but, I must respect their choices.

[azureline**]

I would not contact her or stay in touch, as sad as it is.

My son broke up with his gf of 4 years and started seeing another girl almost immediately, they eventually married. We felt that the previous girl was a part of our family, so maintained a friendship with her.

So, 8 years after the wedding, my dil saw that I have the previous gf on my fb friends list and was very upset. She said nothing to us but my son did............... I felt it was unfair but unfriended her.(I do have a great relationship with my DIL and it was more important for that to continue, than my friendship with the x gf)

[tasfleur]

Hope you stay with her Lurker.  Friends, if they are real friends, survive and thrive regardless xx

[lurker17260]

Thanks guys, especially tas for your lovely kind words.
There doesn't seem to be any acrimony (sp?) and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't mind, but I also understand az's situation and I suppose that's kind of what I'm concerned about.
I dunno. I'll just think about it for a couple of days.
Anyway if I spoke to her now I'd probably start crying and that won't help anyone

[azureline**]

Oh, there was  and is, no acrimony Lurker, between them, they were all friends and in the same group at school, the x, my son, my 2 DIL's and my daughter!

My daughter's were also close to the x. It was very sad for us, lol.

The problems arise when there is a party/birthday/anniversary etc and you can't really invite them.

I think you will make the choice that suits your situation.

[tasfleur]

You'll do what is right Lurker, I know you will either way.  But I do hope you stay with her and not be influenced by the jealousies of others.  I would not push the friendship away and hurt the girl, she's done nothing wrong and neither have you.

I'm still in touch with my husband's ex girlfriend's mother from over 29 years ago, and via that, we both kept in touch with his ex girlfriend, a wonderful cellist who moved to the USA and married there.  Nothing changed and she died of melanoma in the USA a few years ago, but the mother has never forgotten us and never would, bless her.