He's a silly boy

[lurker17260]

I've just found out my son has broken up with his girlfriend of about 2 years.  So sad.  I really thought this one was a keeper.  I know he's an adult and has to make his own choices and there is nothing I can or should do, but, they seemed so happy and well suited to each other. 

You only ever want them to be happy don't you.

[cat_mioux]

Lurker its part of being a mum of grown ups. They'll meet a wonderful girl/young man and you'll want to adopt them as your own because they are so wonderful and then suddenly they are out of your life 😞

My son dated a lovely girl for years. We got along so well and I'd always joke she was my adopted daughter. I even loved her own mum. I was devastated when they broke up. I'd text "S" every now and then for a year or two but realised out of respect for my son and how he had moved on, I stopped.

I still fantasize they'll get back together after all these years though lol.

[lurker17260]

I know you are all correct, and my rational mind tells me they are adults and can and should make their own life choices. But I can't help but wallow in a bit of the "what might have been"'s.

On the brighter side I'm going to become a mother-in-law, for the first time, in just over 2 weeks. That's very exciting. I'll be good at it too. I was taught by an expert how NOT to behave 😐

[tasfleur]

... Lurker, I think you will be a most splendid mother-in-law, congratulations xx

[twinkles**stars]

congratulations on the upcoming wedding....what are you wearing? 🙂

Listen to those with experience lurker. They have split, their business. No one knows what went wrong, maybe they drifted apart. If the girl contacts you all well and good, but you making that move to keep in contact could distance you from your son and put her in an awkward position.

My sons ex girlfriend lived with us for some time after they split, was fine, both went into new relationships and every now and again (after 13 years) I get a message from her with an update. 🙂

[punch*drunk]

I kept in contact with my ex boyfriends mum for  probably 20 years after we broke up, I used to visit her at least once a month. We still send each other christmas cards, but I just cant find the time to visit her nowadays. I dont think any of her sons girlfriends/wives after me had a problem with it, if they did she never told me.

[jean2579]

Congratulations, being a MIL is amazing. You finally get someone to talk to about female things and so long as you leave the Son/Husband out of the equation you will have a great relationship. My Son calls it the sisterhood mafia!

[lurker17260]

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@jean2579 wrote:

Congratulations, being a MIL is amazing. You finally get someone to talk to about female things and so long as you leave the Son/Husband out of the equation you will have a great relationship. My Son calls it the sisterhood mafia!

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haha we've already got that happening jean.  Just recently my other 2 sons and their dad (my OH) went fishing while the girls and I sat on the bank and drank cocktails

[toon_town_nutter]

I think you should give her a call and let her know your friendship was genuine.