How do you tell a friend.....

[red.lollipop]

.....they feed their kid too much **bleep**? 

A friend of mine has a little girl - she's 10.  We get together quite regularly and every time we do, he buys her things like pancakes and a big piece of cake with icecream just for morning tea, then they go out to lunch.  (Don't know how she fits it all in!!!)  She's a lovely little girl and every time I see her, she's getting heavier and she also refuses to play any sport or even go outside and my friend (her dad) doesn't push it either.  I just feel like my friend doesn't see what's happening, and she's such a nice little girl I'd hate to think of her getting picked on or anything because of it.  It's not just every now and then either.  Whatever she asks for, she will normally get. 

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@this-one-time-at-bandcamp wrote:

why?

That's the culture....any offense is returned with gunfire........look at the last couple of years.....play music too loud, you die.......start getting the worst of a bout of fisticuffs, pull a gun.....have a disagreement with a neighbor, pull a gun.......last week two 14-year olds had a cat fight, one ended up dead.

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   Sounds like you lot need to harden the **bleep** up!

[***super_nova***]

I would talk to the adult when the child is not there.  Or I would order salad and talk about how so many people are so overweight and kids getting diabetes type 2 due to bad diet. 

[lloydslights]

Okay, I'm a cranky pants after just waking from a nap.  

What is it with people asking their kids:  what do you want to eat? what do you want to do? what do you want to watch?  What do you want for Xmas/birthday?

Often the child will ask for what they don't need.  Or they suggest something outrageous for some "bargaining" power.  

In the case of a separated dad (and a lot of dads frankly), I would discuss with him prior to any outing, some places they could go, food to take (picnic).

We sometimes don't realize that some of these weekend access kids, are missing playtime with their friends whilst with their dad.  Can there be the odd occasion where she can bring a friend on an outing?  (Of course, the little friend's carer should do the "check" on you both.)

DEB

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Parents with low self esteem need their children to be their friend, rather than the child.

[the_bob_delusion]

Tell them about this forum. I'll put a topic up for them to see.

[georgiajake2010]

Talk to the dad. Fat kids usually turn into fat adults. Being overweight at any age is unhealthy

[cmcoins2000]

If you are a friend.

Tell it how it is - with concern - with tact - as a friend.

We all need at least one of those.

[icyfroth]

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@cmcoins2000 wrote:

If you are a friend.

Tell it how it is - with concern - with tact - as a friend.

We all need at least one of those.

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if you want to stay friends with her, don't say a word. 

[opmania]

this is a very touchy subject and could end up very badly for all three of you

could you try next time you go out to eat saying it's my shout

don't even let them order

you order for all three of you something nice but healthy

at the end of the meal if she wants cake or ice cream or whatever

quickly end the meal and say let's go

I've got a surprise for you much better than cake

take her in to target or like and buy her a token present like hair clips or something nice that will make her feel good about herself

she will be totally oblivious as to what  just happened and the father will catch on  unless he's a total dufus

[azureline**]

Redlollipop, was it you who was asking about a tattoo last year? What did you end up getting and how is your boy doing?