Is it possible

[freddie*rooster]

To find out where a cheque was cashed/ or banked?

I have the cheque number the amount it was for and who the drawer was and who the cheque was for.

[Anonymous]

Very true az and Freddy ..
We where the ones that looked after her until she had to go into full time care ..
Sorted all that ..which is not easy ..
Oh was p.a !!
No one came near to do the hard stuff ..

Then they wanted this and that ..I said she is still here ..it is not an estate ..
It all belongs to aunty ..if you want anything you will have to buy it ..as that money is hers to pay for her care and anything else she desires .

Used to love taking her shopping so she could have a spend up lol .
She went on heaps of trips too while she could .

[azureline**]

Good for you! happy to hear that you did that for her flannie .

I  took my FIL shopping and bought him new clothes for winter, still need to buy shoes. Nothing on sale, nothing cheap. It's his money and he deserves to look nice and feel good!

A staff member said "don't buy expensive stuff" 😞

[Anonymous]

Fancy saying that ..he would need quality shoes IMO .

Aunty alway looked after herself and was a dress maker ..so she liked things that fitted properly ..she lost a lot of weight and her old stuff fell of her ..
So we got all new ..everything ..she was rapt !

[Anonymous]

One really came to me and said a ring that aunty was wearing ..she wanted !!!

Well what are you going to do ..she is still alive it's her ring don't you get it ..??

When she passed and we had to collect her things ..it's was gone !!

[punch*drunk]

I was wondeing how you went Freddie,

It sucks being an executor, I'm dealing with trying to sell my dad and grandfathers houses (1 property) with a co executor whose done sweet fa and other family members giving me grief about everything from how much they think the house should sell for to the lawn mower man isnt trimming the edges neat enough   Now I have the real estate agent and the solicitor arguing with each other because the section 32's not ready, I cant get on that plane to Thailand quick enough, I just wish I was going away for longer.

To top it off today, I get an email from the solicitor that handled my uncles estate, just when I thought that one was finalised there is more.......he passed away 18 months ago.

[freddie*rooster]

Punchy, I know what you mean, no matter what you do there will always be someone ready to spoil your good work. Enjoy your holiday and leave the headaches behind. Sometimes I think we need to get tough, and tell those who cause the stress and grief to get lost.

[debra9275]

I was wondering how you went too

I shouldn't laugh,,,, but ... lol

I'm glad you know where it is

lawyers and RE agents just don't communicate enough

[debra9275]

Punch I  had to do my aunties estate, and it was very complicated as her will was contested. it took a couple of years to get it finalized & I wasn't able to do things the way she wanted, but I did my best. It's a really stressful job to do

so like freddie said, enjoy your holiday and try not to worry about it for a little while

[cherry*135]

az: Retirement home: A staff member said "don't buy expensive stuff" 

It is not as if you will be spending the staffs wages on your FIL new clothes, therefore none of their business.

[Anonymous]

It does suck punch , we have done it 3 times ...hope never to again .
We want to change ours as we have chosen our parents and they are getting on , you choose some one you ,love and trust to carry out your wishes ,but after what we went thru ,but don't want to put any one thru it iykwim .

Try and forget it for a while and have a good holiday .